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Posted by emmanuel98 on November 27, 2009, at 21:21:13
I just met today with my T (also my p-doc) and we set a date to end. I have been seeing him for nearly five years and have gotten so much better, have gotten through a terrible period of severe depression, overwhelming transference emotions, talked through all kinds of shame and self-hatred from having had a f***ed up childhood and adolescence.
I love this man so much. He has been like a surrogate parent to me. But I know I'm better and don't have much to say in sessions anymore. I don't want to linger on and get bored or frustrated. I want to have a clean break and say a meaningful goodbye.
But this is so painful. We had cut our sessions to every other week and I asked to go back to once a week but set a date to end. This is going to be painful however I do it, so I may as well bit the bullet and say goodbye.
I'd give anything for advice about how to live with this. I have never loved another human being as much as I love him, except for my husband and daughter. I completely idealize him. How do you say goodbye to someone who has been this rock for you? I'm crying and crying about this.
Posted by Dinah on November 28, 2009, at 8:28:09
In reply to Ending Therapy, posted by emmanuel98 on November 27, 2009, at 21:21:13
Obviously I can't say goodbye.
There are some good books about ending therapy. I tend to collect them, obsessive soul that I am. I *think* I remember that the one I liked best was "When to Say Goodbye to your Therapist".
I think a lot of people don't recognize what a strong attachment there can be. Just like some people don't recognize that losing a pet can be the same as losing a family member. Let yourself grieve. Whenever you lose someone important to you, it's important to grieve the loss, even if you also rejoice in your wellness and your freedom.
Posted by Dinah on November 28, 2009, at 10:31:57
In reply to Re: Ending Therapy » emmanuel98, posted by Dinah on November 28, 2009, at 8:28:09
Hmmm... Most of that book seems to be about reaching the decision.
Maybe books on grieving would be more to the point?
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