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Posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:33:29
I am quitting the current T I am seeing. I have posted here alot of the seemingly small stuff that have been issues but the bottom line is personality wise she is not someone I feel comfortable around. She has been in practice a long time so I am sure she knows her stuff but my experience with her is that she is defensive and argumentative and I simply would never work well with someone who has a personality like that. I have been giving her second chances trying to 'get used to her' and trying to be a "big girl" but this little girl is afraid of the attitude of this T and I need someone with a more tenderhearted approach. We did talk about how I felt about her, kind of intimidated of her but it didn't change anything. She comes across to me as a nasty snob. She probably is just the opposite but what matters is not how the T "really" is but how you experience them. I have two upcoming appts. with new T's to meet. I am so mad my old T retired. Since she retired over a year ago my life has been a living hell. I have not been able to find a T. The T she referred me to had family problems and was always cancelling sessions and then was taking every third week off so I terminated her. She was gone more than she was in the office. And it has been meeting T after T since. I need help on issues. Ugh I wish I could get even with my old T. Why did she have to retire! Grrrrr! (Ex: Old T and I worked for years on how I should relate to my mother and current T is encouraging just the opposite. Not helpful at all.)
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 11, 2010, at 18:53:15
In reply to Quitting my current T, posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:33:29
I'm so sorry. I can imagine how frustrated you are. Do you have a health care provider (doctor, nurse, whatever) who you trust who could give you a list of referrals? That might be slightly better than starting from scratch, although maybe one of the ones you have appointments with will click.
Have you told current T yet? Keep us posted. I'll be thinking about you.
Posted by Verloren on January 11, 2010, at 18:53:34
In reply to Quitting my current T, posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:33:29
rnny,
I am sad to see you have to go through the process of finding another T. It is very daunting esp more for you since you have to try to find a replacement who will be similar to your old T.
You are right, in the end it is how you feel about and relate to them that matters the most. If you simply could not mesh well with her, then moving on is right for you right now.
I've found good therapists from therapytribe.com and psychologytoday.com but it would also depend on your area. And I recommend interviewing them extensively on the phone first, then agreeing to the first session as an interview session only, where you give a bit of your T background experiences and the prevalent issues you need addressed. Then perhaps, follow-up with a phone call to schedule any further appointments. It might seem like unnecessarily long hoops to jump through, but if they'll willing to spend this time with you then it will be likely that they are better fits. (all just suggestions, of course)
I wonder if the situation with the T you old T recommended to you has changed. Maybe she might be worth interviewing with again. Now that some time has passed, perhaps she has decided to come back into the office more than she will be away. It's just a thought.
Good luck with your search. ((((rnny))))
-Verloren
Posted by rnny on January 12, 2010, at 13:28:30
In reply to Re: Quitting my current T » rnny, posted by Verloren on January 11, 2010, at 18:53:34
Thank you both for posting. XO
Posted by Roslynn on January 12, 2010, at 16:40:30
In reply to Quitting my current T, posted by rnny on January 11, 2010, at 18:33:29
Dear Rnny,
Hi, I know what you mean about the approach your T is taking. That sort of hard-hearted or "tough love" thing doesn't work for me either. I wish you the best of luck in finding a therapist who is a better match for you.
hugs
Roslynn
> I am quitting the current T I am seeing. I have posted here alot of the seemingly small stuff that have been issues but the bottom line is personality wise she is not someone I feel comfortable around. She has been in practice a long time so I am sure she knows her stuff but my experience with her is that she is defensive and argumentative and I simply would never work well with someone who has a personality like that. I have been giving her second chances trying to 'get used to her' and trying to be a "big girl" but this little girl is afraid of the attitude of this T and I need someone with a more tenderhearted approach. We did talk about how I felt about her, kind of intimidated of her but it didn't change anything. She comes across to me as a nasty snob. She probably is just the opposite but what matters is not how the T "really" is but how you experience them. I have two upcoming appts. with new T's to meet. I am so mad my old T retired. Since she retired over a year ago my life has been a living hell. I have not been able to find a T. The T she referred me to had family problems and was always cancelling sessions and then was taking every third week off so I terminated her. She was gone more than she was in the office. And it has been meeting T after T since. I need help on issues. Ugh I wish I could get even with my old T. Why did she have to retire! Grrrrr! (Ex: Old T and I worked for years on how I should relate to my mother and current T is encouraging just the opposite. Not helpful at all.)
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