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Posted by Daisym on July 1, 2010, at 23:23:21
Do you know what your core issues are? I've run up against something in group that, after much discussion with my individual therapist, we've identified as one of my "core" issues. Essentially I guess my issues are:
1) Trusting anyone with my needs so I don't show my needs
2) Feeling let down when they don't meet these needs I didn't show
3) Feeling all alone in the world because I always get let down.Tough circle to break.
It was interesting though to talk about these things as "core" issues and look at the pattern. Kind of like Macro-therapy, instead of Micro-therapy - the daily discussion of events past and present.
Anyone else know want to share their core issues?
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2010, at 14:46:28
In reply to Core Issues, posted by Daisym on July 1, 2010, at 23:23:21
I was planning to ask my therapist today, but we never got away from talking about being a grownup.
Although my fear of growing up may be a core issue. I have very complex feelings about growing up, and what it means to be a woman, and all sorts of issues around that from sex to responsibility. I use the terms in such a way that even I can't describe exactly what I mean by them, and it's layered with all kinds of stuff that even now we haven't waded through because I just can't verbalize it.
Definitely my issues around feeling like I need to be a good girl, and feeling that anything bad that happens comes from not being "good" or doing enough. Lots of magical thinking in that area of my life. I think I'd say that may be my very biggest core issue.
I think he'd say that I have poor self esteem. I strongly disagree. I think we may have settled on the issue that I have strong feelings of inferiority about certain aspects of myself. I'm not sure though. He keeps trotting out the poor self esteem as if it were a global issue.
Oh, and maybe a very low tolerance for emotional pain unfortunately coupled with a very reactive nervous system. :) I spend way too much energy avoiding pain, and end up causing myself more pain.
I'll have to ask him. I found it fascinating when I asked him to describe me in ten words. Perhaps looking back at that list might give me a clue.
Posted by Dinah on July 5, 2010, at 9:49:42
In reply to Re: Core Issues » Daisym, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2010, at 14:46:28
I found the list of five words, but while they may describe my core problems in his eyes, they don't describe core *issues*.
It's something worth discussing.
Have you found your group helpful in learning to resolve the core issues?
Posted by rskontos on July 12, 2010, at 16:03:10
In reply to Core Issues, posted by Daisym on July 1, 2010, at 23:23:21
Daisym,
One of my core issues I discovered today in therapy is one not feeling like a fraud and two, a biggie, not ever wanting to feel vulnerable. I have separated myself from my feelings so I don't get hurt because of trust issues. Funny thing is my sister is now in my life, she is only 21 months younger, and it is interesting that her issues are so different from mine yet we both grew up in holy terror. My younger sister is more like me. My sister overly trusts, versus me and never trusting.
rsk
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