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Posted by mmealltalk on February 2, 2011, at 19:16:58
I usually only write or comment during the summer while my t is on break but right now i am losing my mind and though my t and psymd are available it doesnt seem to matter. Everything bothers me, its like i have no tolerance of dealing with the smallest deviation from the norm. I feel so depressed and hopeless and sick of life and i am getting lower and lower in a hole that i am aware is so close. Look at me the wrong way and i want to cry, thats how crazy this has become. There are real life issues like living with an 85yr old grandmother who is clearly deteriorating rapidly and has fallen (though not hurt herself) and been hospitalized twice in the last month. I also have a father who speaks to me so abusively i cant take it but due to financial issues i live in a home he owns and still have to follow his rules at 34yrs of age. Im on disability but since my family doesnt understand why i cant work they do not really grasp why i have so much difficulty in life. The bottom line is i am so miserable and while i know there isnt much that anyone here can do, i am losing my mind and very depressed so i decided to write.
Mel
Posted by Dinah on February 2, 2011, at 20:20:37
In reply to Will this misery ever end?, posted by mmealltalk on February 2, 2011, at 19:16:58
Nothing lasts forever. All we can really count on is change.
You'll feel better, and then you may feel bad again, and then you may feel better again.
It's hard to take care of aging parents and grandparents. It is so upsetting to the natural order to have those who helped you need help. I think maybe it causes more stress than even the obvious.
Take care of yourself. Is there any way to carve out small moments for yourself, away from your father? A bubblebath? A good book under the covers?
Posted by Annabelle Smith on February 4, 2011, at 18:55:49
In reply to Will this misery ever end?, posted by mmealltalk on February 2, 2011, at 19:16:58
I don't have much good to say, except that I hear you.
Maybe it would help some to keep writing it out on here. Sometimes it just helps to be heard and to have others respond, even if there aren't any great words of wisdom they have to offer. It seems like being heard is sometimes more important than any specific words anyway.
I think Dinah is right-- try to do something kind for yourself: even if it is really small. Maybe take it just one day at a time.
Thinking of you...
Posted by floatingbridge on February 25, 2011, at 19:56:51
In reply to Re: Will this misery ever end?, posted by Annabelle Smith on February 4, 2011, at 18:55:49
Annabelle's idea about posting I second.
You aren't alone in your situation. Do you socialize? And some people roll their eyes at this, but a good support group?
AA has other groups that might work, like Adult Children (even if your father isn't alcoholic, he may behave like one). Codependcy groups (not saying you're codependent). There is even an EA
(emotions anonymous!) near me. AA groups don't care why anyone is there.Depending on where you live, some hospitals and community centers offer mindfulness groups.
Someone described the sense of gloom that would descend upon her when she would return home after an evening group. Her situation sounded very similar to what you described. It's miserable, but getting out kept her going, gave her friends and a reality check away from home.
Maybe you do this already. Therapy?
Does your disability allow you to volunteer? Even phone work. I worked at a crisis line--depressed as I was. And thinking about it, that was while living in a way overcrowded house w/ a verbally abusive (and loud!) father. I relished getting out. I would spend hours at a nearby indoor mall to avoid home. However, I find malls depressing, so I don't suggest it.
Please consider posting more often,
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