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Posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
i was just readinbg deneb's post from 2016 earlier this year, she grew, and learned all these skills.....and...i wanted to do that.....and find a way to move somewhere in life.....all this stuff i've posted here, it's just .... thought ramblings, i wanted to change and bloom .... before i was on facebook and knew alot of people, i was here on babble, i rerember night i would just stay up and talk on babble, before 2006.....
dr-bob and his Chicago team that browses this site, I've never been to their meetings in Chicago, joined the crew. posters that moved on with their lives.....i need to find a way out of the sandbox
Posted by Clearskies on September 7, 2016, at 20:27:23
In reply to babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
Everyone has their own pace. You needn't beat yourself up! I am still around (sporadically) and other old timers check back in.
It's not the same place here. It's still a necessary resource for support amongst peer in the mental health community. I am going to try to ride this out.
Posted by Tabitha on September 7, 2016, at 22:53:46
In reply to babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
Yeah, it was cool seeing Deneb grow up and get better. But you seem more grown up, too. I think your life will keep improving.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on September 23, 2016, at 23:39:28
In reply to Re: babble » rjlockhart37, posted by Tabitha on September 7, 2016, at 22:53:46
yea...i've been really thinking about doing a major change, somehow internally, i've written a notebook on self-change....to somehow fade out the old misery, and see things diffrent......learning how to react diffrent, new motivation to things i have no care for, just a new, changed version of myself
no therapist, i just stay at home and i have decided to change, internally....i listen to music alot and gives me the emotion to follow a path i want to be.....i've learned how to compare my perception today, and know how i used to think, and old ways of doing things, i finally understand why i did them, and make a change
deneb improved, and moved on.....she's smart, she was in advanced classes, and got a better job.... i hope the best for her...
.my mom and other people always had that PET line "don't compare yourself to others" well.....by comparing my situation to their's it's given me a urge to change and move out of old mindstates, i truely don't like who i was, but in the process becoming a new chapter......
but ....everyday you can wake up to be someone new....i like that motto....hope to continue to follow it
Posted by SLS on September 24, 2016, at 2:09:00
In reply to Re: babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 23, 2016, at 23:39:28
Hi RJ.
Over the years, it is easy to see that you have evolved as a person. You seem healthier and happier to me.
> ....everyday you can wake up to be someone new....i like that motto....hope to continue to follow it
I like that motto, too.
Don't give up on Psycho-Babble just yet.
:-)
- Scott
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 23, 2016, at 22:06:46
In reply to babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
> i was just readinbg deneb's post from 2016 earlier this year, she grew, and learned all these skills.....and...i wanted to do that.....and find a way to move somewhere in life.....all this stuff i've posted here, it's just .... thought ramblings, i wanted to change and bloom .... before i was on facebook and knew alot of people, i was here on babble, i rerember night i would just stay up and talk on babble, before 2006.....
>
> dr-bob and his Chicago team that browses this site, I've never been to their meetings in Chicago, joined the crew. posters that moved on with their lives.....i need to find a way out of the sandboxWe can all learn from our peers' experiences, rj. I have a fridge magnet from Deneb, which she gave to peeps when there was a psychobabble gathering in Toronto in 2006. Wow, that was over a decade ago?
Deneb taught me to be authentic. To be myself, so that I could get to know myself. That was Deneb's gift to me.
You can't think your way into a new way of acting, but you can act your way into a new way of thinking.
Lar
Posted by Deneb on July 12, 2017, at 19:21:12
In reply to babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
Hi RJ,
I agree with Clearskies, everyone has their pace. You're still young. Try not to compare yourself to others because everyone's situation is different.
I used to get depressed and jealous of my sister doing better than me. She had a boyfriend, she moved out, and got a PhD. By most measures, she is a very successful person.
But then I realized that there's a good chance that her life wouldn't make me happy. I'm not sure that I'd even like to do the work required for a PhD.
Her personality is also very different from mine. We're completely different despite having similar childhoods. She has different challenges, and issues. I can handle things that she can't.
I think life is like a video game where some characters have different strengths and weaknesses that they begin with. An achievement on hard mode versus easy mode is very different. It wouldn't be fair to compare achievements on hard mode and easy mode the same way.
Don't worry about others, and what they are like or think. Focus on what you want. I think being more laid-back is a legitimate lifestyle choice.
Not everyone is going to be happy with a high powered job, spouse and kids.
Don't be hard on yourself for not meeting milestones that others your age are meeting. Do what you want on your timeline. People can be successful at any age. Life is an adventure. Enjoy the ride, bumps and all.
I think that once I stopped judging myself, I started to do things for myself. I stopped caring about what others expected.
You've already grown a lot, from what I've seen.
I think you're going to be OK. :-)
Posted by Deneb on July 12, 2017, at 20:08:29
In reply to Re: babble » rjlockhart37, posted by Larry Hoover on December 23, 2016, at 22:06:46
> > i was just readinbg deneb's post from 2016 earlier this year, she grew, and learned all these skills.....and...i wanted to do that.....and find a way to move somewhere in life.....all this stuff i've posted here, it's just .... thought ramblings, i wanted to change and bloom .... before i was on facebook and knew alot of people, i was here on babble, i rerember night i would just stay up and talk on babble, before 2006.....
> >
> > dr-bob and his Chicago team that browses this site, I've never been to their meetings in Chicago, joined the crew. posters that moved on with their lives.....i need to find a way out of the sandbox
>
> We can all learn from our peers' experiences, rj. I have a fridge magnet from Deneb, which she gave to peeps when there was a psychobabble gathering in Toronto in 2006. Wow, that was over a decade ago?
>
> Deneb taught me to be authentic. To be myself, so that I could get to know myself. That was Deneb's gift to me.
>
> You can't think your way into a new way of acting, but you can act your way into a new way of thinking.
>
> Lar
>
>Hi Larry!
I still have the magnet too!
I hope you are well. :-)
I think fondly of the meetups.
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