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Posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 17:52:25
This is something I wonder about a lot. When Greg posted about the job at his firm seeking my skillset, I couldn't figure out which it was, since I don't know what my skillset is! Am I pretty? My ex-boyfriend used to call me PB, both for Princess Buttercup and for Phenomenally Beautiful. I am Princess Buttercup, because only a true princess could possibly be as rotten as I am and still live -- one of my loyal subjects would have assassinated me by now otherwise. He said I was the other PB, but I don't know. Maybe it was just his eyes?
I know that the me inside, the one I am most familiar with, is not the me that others have met. I wonder a lot whether the outside me is more real than the inside me.
Now I know that I'm unique, no one in the history of the world has ever experienced what I have experienced.
Nonetheless, I also know that I'm not nearly clever enough to have come up with this question before everyone else here. Any suggestions, solutions, reasons to stop worrying and get some work done instead?
(Actually, I've gotten some work done today, and good work too, so I'm not quite so horrid as earlier. Still pretty bad, but that curl in the middle of my forehead* is starting to straighten!)
*Prize to the first person to recognise the origin of THAT thought!
Posted by Mark H. on November 14, 2000, at 18:16:52
In reply to self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?), posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 17:52:25
And when she was bad, she was...
still beautiful.
Mark H.
Posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 18:29:36
In reply to Re: There was a little girl » Racer, posted by Mark H. on November 14, 2000, at 18:16:52
So what the hell are you doing hanging out with us???
Thank you, Mark H., for your sweet answer. It made me smile.
And your prize is this: YOU'RE CURED!!! You, Mark H., are now a WINNER!!!
OK, so your prize is to be first, but it's still nice, isn't it?
Posted by Mark H. on November 14, 2000, at 19:13:34
In reply to We have a winner!, posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 18:29:36
I guess that makes me a ham. I'm so proud!
MH
Posted by shar on November 14, 2000, at 21:07:41
In reply to Re: There was a little girl » Racer, posted by Mark H. on November 14, 2000, at 18:16:52
Just kidding, don't panic!
But -- You have given me faith that there are still men out there who can be sensitive and sweet!
Greg, too, but he's already married!
Shar
> And when she was bad, she was...
>
> still beautiful.
>
> Mark H.
Posted by shar on November 14, 2000, at 22:18:33
In reply to self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?), posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 17:52:25
I can join you on this one, too. I've been thinking lately about the roles I hold in life, and how they've had a good jolt in the past few months--especially the hard-worker/successful employee role, and the daughter role has expanded significantly, and all the rest--sister, mother, wife (ex-wife, I guess), dog mom, friend, babbler, all of it.
And, none of it feels like it's going well, even though I may not be giving credit for things I do accomplish.
Oh well--I guess this is my rambling role.
FHC, CS, Rosebud
> This is something I wonder about a lot. When Greg posted about the job at his firm seeking my skillset, I couldn't figure out which it was, since I don't know what my skillset is! Am I pretty? My ex-boyfriend used to call me PB, both for Princess Buttercup and for Phenomenally Beautiful. I am Princess Buttercup, because only a true princess could possibly be as rotten as I am and still live -- one of my loyal subjects would have assassinated me by now otherwise. He said I was the other PB, but I don't know. Maybe it was just his eyes?
>
> I know that the me inside, the one I am most familiar with, is not the me that others have met. I wonder a lot whether the outside me is more real than the inside me.
>
> Now I know that I'm unique, no one in the history of the world has ever experienced what I have experienced.
>
> Nonetheless, I also know that I'm not nearly clever enough to have come up with this question before everyone else here. Any suggestions, solutions, reasons to stop worrying and get some work done instead?
>
> (Actually, I've gotten some work done today, and good work too, so I'm not quite so horrid as earlier. Still pretty bad, but that curl in the middle of my forehead* is starting to straighten!)
>
> *Prize to the first person to recognise the origin of THAT thought!
Posted by quilter on November 14, 2000, at 23:44:53
In reply to Re: self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?) » Racer, posted by shar on November 14, 2000, at 22:18:33
Shar, you are NOT giving yourself enough credit. You have posted at least three times in the last two days, each of those posts gave accurate, clearly stated, caring responses. Do they still say You go, Girl ?
Quilter
Posted by quilter on November 15, 2000, at 0:16:19
In reply to self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?), posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 17:52:25
This question keeps smacking me upside the head, too. I used to think I didn't Own a skillset, but now I know I have plenty of completely useless skillsets. My quilting skills are good but useless unless I suddenly become brave enough to travel and teach, Strong enough to produce all the needed class samples, or thrifty enough to stop indulging my fabric addiction faster than I can sell stuff.
I have extensive troves of random knowledge(good only for irritating friends and family so they refuse to play Scrabble or trivial Pursuit). I speak very good French (when drunk). I can write but not type. The list goes on....
I have begun to see that WHAT I am (do) is not the same as WHO I am. Neither tells the whole story.
Quilter
Posted by Racer on November 15, 2000, at 0:34:37
In reply to Re: self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?), posted by quilter on November 15, 2000, at 0:16:19
Hell, Woman, if you quilt and know little bits of useless trivia, come on over to my place!
Posted by shar on November 15, 2000, at 1:27:22
In reply to Re: self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?), posted by quilter on November 14, 2000, at 23:44:53
Thank you, Quilter. I appreciate the feedback. I also think that you make a good point in separating who one is from what one does. That's a hard one for me; a lot of my identity is tied into my professional life. AKA Workaholic.
Shar (I love Scrabble, but don't do well at Trivial Pursuit, although I have a little knowledge about lot of things.)
> Shar, you are NOT giving yourself enough credit. You have posted at least three times in the last two days, each of those posts gave accurate, clearly stated, caring responses. Do they still say You go, Girl ?
>
> Quilter
Posted by caroline h. on November 15, 2000, at 1:43:45
In reply to Re: self assessment (Pronounced: who am I?) » quilter, posted by shar on November 15, 2000, at 1:27:22
> Thank you, Quilter. I appreciate the feedback. I also think that you make a good point in separating who one is from what one does. That's a hard one for me; a lot of my identity is tied into my professional life. AKA Workaholic.
>
> Shar (I love Scrabble, but don't do well at Trivial Pursuit, although I have a little knowledge about lot of things.)
>
>
> > Shar, you are NOT giving yourself enough credit. You have posted at least three times in the last two days, each of those posts gave accurate, clearly stated, caring responses. Do they still say You go, Girl ?
> >
> > QuilterRacer-the curl in your forehead straightened out when you realized you weren't so horrid. and here's a neat trick...you stop worrying when you start doing, not the other way around. if you wait to stop worrying before doing anything, you'll never stop worrying and you'll never start doing. start doing and the worrying starts to recede. trust me on that one. i'm just beginning to learn it now.
caroline h.
Posted by Greg on November 15, 2000, at 9:21:21
In reply to Marry me, Mark H. !!!, posted by shar on November 14, 2000, at 21:07:41
> Just kidding, don't panic!
>
> But -- You have given me faith that there are still men out there who can be sensitive and sweet!
>
> Greg, too, but he's already married!
>
> Shar
>
>
> > And when she was bad, she was...
> >
> > still beautiful.
> >
> > Mark H.
Posted by Noa on November 15, 2000, at 9:26:17
In reply to Re: Racer, the curl in your forehead....., posted by caroline h. on November 15, 2000, at 1:43:45
I think most people have times when they ask these questions. However, when you are busy and involved connected, you often don't have the time to ask them. Often it is when I am depressed that the metaphysical questions come up. And the catch-22 is that when I am depressed, the chances of me coming up with satisfying answers is less than nil.
I agree about not equating WHO you are with What you do, although that is a part of it. I, for one, because of the need to battle depression since adolescence, have missed some important developmental milestones that I think typically help people feel more secure in Who they are.
BTW, Quilter, I LOVE Scrabble--I play at least several games a day on CD-Rom. ANd, I wish I could sew. I never had the patience to be precise enough for sewing.
Posted by Mark H. on November 15, 2000, at 20:29:19
In reply to Marry me, Mark H. !!!, posted by shar on November 14, 2000, at 21:07:41
Shar,
That is so sweet, even as a joke! Thank you.
Mark H.
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