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Posted by super on February 7, 2001, at 13:03:30
It seems like whenever I bring up feelings that my girlfriend doesn't understand, she attributes my feelings to my mental illness and tells me to talk to my therapist about the feelings. I feel like she dismisses my feelings this way, so it is hard for me to get her to take me seriously. Anyone else have a significant other who does this? She has also voiced concerns that I will go crazy and steal her money (or do something else detrimental to her) in the future. It's not that she's stupid or ill-informed, it's just that she has all these prejudices.
Posted by allisonm on February 7, 2001, at 18:23:10
In reply to g/f uses dx. against me, posted by super on February 7, 2001, at 13:03:30
I can empathize. It's happened to me, too. If she cares about you, maybe she should try to educate herself more about your dx. If she can't be bothered and chooses to focus just on what's "wrong" with you, I would suggest finding another g/f. One question: how much information are you giving her about your dx? At difficult times, I have found myself greatly preoccupied with my mood, what my doctor thought, etc., and talked about it a LOT. Do you talk to your g/f a lot about this?
Posted by ChrisK on February 8, 2001, at 6:11:14
In reply to g/f uses dx. against me, posted by super on February 7, 2001, at 13:03:30
Super,
Been there, done that. My wife is the same way sometimes. If you can I would suggest taht you set up a time with your therapist to go in with your g/f. He can then help you talk out some of the thoughts you are having in a safe environment. He may also be able to help her understand better some of the problems you are going through.
I know it's frustrating but if she is open to a little therapy session herself, you may be able to get past some of this.
> It seems like whenever I bring up feelings that my girlfriend doesn't understand, she attributes my feelings to my mental illness and tells me to talk to my therapist about the feelings. I feel like she dismisses my feelings this way, so it is hard for me to get her to take me seriously. Anyone else have a significant other who does this? She has also voiced concerns that I will go crazy and steal her money (or do something else detrimental to her) in the future. It's not that she's stupid or ill-informed, it's just that she has all these prejudices.
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