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Posted by dennis on February 5, 2001, at 12:48:55
Well I just quit my job and I dont have another job to start, however I do have a potential home business as a herbalife distributor. I have worked at my job for 15 months and I was just so sick of it that I had to quit, even though this might not have been smartest thing to do, I was making close to 11 dollars an hour and I am only 19 years old. So I feel maybe I was stupid to quit, but I just dont seem to be able to handle anything, its like I am just not cut out for this world, I just cant handle life and stress, I dont think I can get another job working for someone else or a company, thats why I am interested in the herbalife thing, but then again, I am not a salesman, so I dont know. I have aspergers syndrome, with is also called high functioning autism, I can function as well as most people if not better than most people for the most part, but socially, I am retarded, I cannot sense peoples feelings, I live in my own little world, I was thinking about applying for social security disability benifits, so I could get a steady income I dont have to worry about and then maybe do the herbalife on the side just to make a little more money. I am not sure if I would be accepted for disability benifits? what do you think? also do you think it would be wrong for me to use your tax dollars so I can live without haveing to get a job, do you think I should just suck it up and take it like a man and get a job whether I like it or not?
Posted by Noa on February 6, 2001, at 9:11:08
In reply to aspergers syndrome and disability benefits?, posted by dennis on February 5, 2001, at 12:48:55
Dennis, I think that Aspergers on its own would not qualify you; you would have to show that your disability impedes your ability to work.
Sounds to me like a good consult with a good career counselor would be a good idea!
Many of us hate our first job or our first few jobs. Finding the right career can take time. I encourage you not to give up on this.
I also think that while staying at home on disability might be tempting, it also has its liabilities. Being idle can be disabling in itself.
Feeling productive is so important to one's mental health.
Lots of people have difficulty working for a boss. But doing an herbalife business doesn't sound like your dream career, either, from the way you describe it. You need to figure out what is a good career for you--something where you can be pretty independent, but that excites you, that you feel is meaningful and has a purpose other than just to earn money (which you said in an earlier post is hard to feel motivated about).
Don't give up on work yet. See if there is a vocational rehabilitation service in your state for which you might be elegible. You can work with a career/vocational counselor there and possibly get funding for training that will lead to a career you might like.
Posted by dennis on February 6, 2001, at 21:44:25
In reply to Re: aspergers syndrome and disability benefits?, posted by Noa on February 6, 2001, at 9:11:08
Thank you for your response, disability is probebly not the answer to my problems you are right, I just seem to have a real problem with working for somebody else, I feel like a drone, or a slave, I have to arrive at a exact time every day and do whatever I am told, and then theres competition from other people trying to take my job and "office politics" is constant in the workplace, it drives me crazy, everybodys always talking about everybody else behind there back, ect. This is why I have decided to try the herbalife business, I want to make money on my own, if this business works out well for me it would be a dream come true, I can afford to be out of work for a while with no income because I saved a lot of money from working, so theres theres 2 things that could happen, I will either succeed or fail at herbalife, if I fail then I will simply get a job, and the whole herbalife deal will just be a learning experience. Well anyway I am not sure if this is interesting to anyone out there or not, I suppose I type this because I dont have any friends to talk to. Heres something I heard recently- "lifes a bitch and then you die so fuck the world and lets get high" what do you think?
Posted by dj on February 6, 2001, at 23:40:27
In reply to Re: aspergers syndrome and disability benefits?, posted by dennis on February 6, 2001, at 21:44:25
> Heres something I heard recently- "lifes a bitch and then you die so fuck the world and lets > get high" what do you think?
I think you might want to consider checking out this link: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20010105/msgs/4444.html and some of the sites I suggested to Phill5 and perhaps consider ways you might connect with some live folks, who can help you help yourself cuz you've got lots of years ahead of you, if you so choose, to work through whatever issues are blocking you now...otherwise you may find yourself spiralling downward instead of up...
And, to be successful in Herbalife or any MLM scheme or business you have to be able to deal well with people face to face and on the phone as well as have a reputable product so no time like the present to start honing those skills...while straight, so you can think that way...
Cheers!
dj
Posted by Noa on February 7, 2001, at 13:45:35
In reply to Re: life...or..., posted by dj on February 6, 2001, at 23:40:27
I have heard Temple Grandin on the radio a few times and she impresses me--she is a woman with autism. She is very high functioning. I have been meaning to read one of her books, and I imagine she writes about having to learn how to do the usual social stuff people do at work, even tho it doesn't come naturally.
I still think a career/vocational counselor might be a good investment.
Posted by dennis on February 7, 2001, at 15:16:29
In reply to Re: life...or..., posted by dj on February 6, 2001, at 23:40:27
I dont think the problems I have are a result of my marijuana use, and I used to go to a shrink for about a year and I got absolutely no help with solving my problems or issues, it seems like my problems are permanent and simply a result of my personality, its just the way I am, this society is setup for normal people, if your not normal like me, then you have to change yourself, put on a act so you can seem normal, you must conform to the system even if you dont like the system, I do not wish to conform to this system or society, I do not wish to be somebody that I am not, I do not want to be a actor and act my way though life. It seems like most people want to conform to society and be "normal" and want everybody to be the same and do the same stuff and go through life the proper way. You know, go though school and get good grades and then go to college and then get a good job and have a career, buy a house, settle down and have kids and go to work 40 hours a week and raise your kids, and then when your older at 65 then you can retire, of course now you have major health problems and are too old to do anything or enjoy life, and your entire life you never do any drugs except maybe a little alcohol and you never experience any other state of conciousness in your life other than sober. That does not sound fun to me, that sounds boring and depressing as hell, that sounds like a complete waste of a good life to me. You see if I was normal and never experimented with drugs I wouldnt think like this, I would already be completely brainwashed by society and life would be great. But since I am different then I must have problems, but I dont have problems, I am just different, the "system" is what has problems because it is not compatable with different people. I believe money is the main problem in this system we have, if money was removed from the system are freedom and quality of life would improve and it would make the system more compatible to different kinds of people, it would be a world of sharing rather than buying, careing and compassion would be the main force behind society, rather than money, this is the world I dream of but will probebly never live long enough to see it happen. I am just rambling on what I am thinking, I am not really asking a question, but you may respond to this if you wish and however you wish, if you want to call me a drug addict then just do it, dont beat around the bush, just come right out and tell me what you think.
Posted by dj on February 7, 2001, at 17:45:36
In reply to Re: Kill Your Television, posted by dennis on February 7, 2001, at 15:16:29
> if you want to call me a drug addict then just do it, dont beat around the bush, just come right >out and tell me what you think.
I have NO idea if you are a drug addict and could care less whether you are or not. You are what you are and you are unique as is EVERYBODY!! What you choose to do with your unique personality and abilities is purely up to you as will be the results you get...
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