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Posted by shellie on February 13, 2001, at 0:25:18
ksvd--just wondering, remembering the thread about going with your kids to see your therapist, and haven't read anything more about it. Haven't seen your name on the board (although I just might have missed your post).
If you're checking in, tell us how that went, and if it helped, and if it happened. Shellie
Posted by ksvt on February 13, 2001, at 20:26:33
In reply to What happened with the family therapy, ksvd, posted by shellie on February 13, 2001, at 0:25:18
> Shellie - I had a therapy session a few weeks ago with my husband, who had never met my current therapist (of 2+ years). The reason for the meeting was really to kind of educate him on the way I think when I am particularly depressed (minus the suicidal ideation which was not discussed), and to come up with some strategies for how i can let him know when I'm slipping and what he can do to help stop the process or at least alleviate the suffering. I thought we might get around to discussing talking to the kids, but we ran out of time. I've had a couple of sessions since then but they've been devoted to more immediate issues, including the rather negative letter my ex-pdoc sent to the new pdoc I'm scheduled to meet tomorrow. I'm pretty anxious about this (the new pdoc) but otherwise I'm not doing too badly. When things are okay, bringing the kids into this doesn't seem called for or it feels like I ought to be able to educate them myself, although I can't seem to find the right opportunity or lead in. I want them to know something about this because I want them to recognize the signs in themselves, should they arise, and I want them not to internalize my moods. This latter point is a bit up in the air because my husband feels that they really aren't sensitive to my moods, and my therapist I think believes that they may not be as affected as I think they are. Any way I'm sure it's something we'll come back to but it's sort of been tabled for the moment. Thanks alot for asking. K
Posted by shellie on February 13, 2001, at 21:45:25
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd » shellie, posted by ksvt on February 13, 2001, at 20:26:33
K- Good luck tomorrow. Remember, she is working for (and with you); you do not have to prove yourself. S
Posted by Noa on February 14, 2001, at 12:08:22
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd » ksvt, posted by shellie on February 13, 2001, at 21:45:25
Ditto, K.
Good luck. And did you find the session with your husband helpful?
Posted by ksvt on February 16, 2001, at 12:31:08
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd, posted by Noa on February 14, 2001, at 12:08:22
>Noa - I think my therapist and I had different aspirations for the session and I think hers were meant more than mine. I do think my husband has a better sense that I'm dealing with something fairly serious and not easily treated and I think that knowledge on his part will make it a little easier for me to let him know when I am depressed and do need a different kind of help from him. Obviously time will tell. We've been married for a long time (almost 18 years) and it's easy to slip into familiar ways of dealing with one another that aren't helpful. It's pretty much up to me to communicate my needs to him, not something I'm good at at all. Thanks K
Posted by ksvt on February 16, 2001, at 12:43:08
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd » ksvt, posted by shellie on February 13, 2001, at 21:45:25
> Shellie - you're right, but I still do feel like I have to justify myself to these people. Maybe it's that I'm arfaid someone is going to think I'm a slacker or hypochondriac, or maybe it's just that I don't feel like I adequately communicate how bad things can really be. My meeting with the new doc went pretty well although it was mostly just information gathering. I think my therapist had prepped her pretty well. I'm meeting her next week to talk more concretely about med changes. The nicest thing she did from my point of view was act apologetic when she told me that there was really not enough time in our session to make some meds decisions. That at least told me that she sees a need to try something different. K
Posted by shellie on February 16, 2001, at 18:46:28
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd » shellie, posted by ksvt on February 16, 2001, at 12:43:08
The nicest thing she did from my point of view was act apologetic when she told me that there was really not enough time in our session to make some meds decisions. That at least told me that she sees a need to try something different. K
K- It also tells you that she takes things seriously, and wants to take the time to think about the medication. Good sign.
Shellie
Posted by Noa on February 17, 2001, at 12:18:23
In reply to Re: What happened with the family therapy, ksvd » ksvt, posted by shellie on February 16, 2001, at 18:46:28
> The nicest thing she did from my point of view was act apologetic when she told me that there was really not enough time in our session to make some meds decisions. That at least told me that she sees a need to try something different. K
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> K- It also tells you that she takes things seriously, and wants to take the time to think about the medication. Good sign.
> Shellie
I agree--good sign. This is hopeful.
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