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Posted by ELA on January 9, 2002, at 11:27:06
I am returning to university after the Christmas break on Sunday and to say that I am really worried about it. I was at uni when I was taken seriously ill and that is what lead to my depression, or had a hand in bringing out something that was probably underlying anyway. I'm scared that something else might happen to me. Also, I have been back at the family home for the last 8 weeks getting over everything and now I will effectively be back on my own again.
GP says that I need counselling to get over things - my illness was life threatening and I have found it difficult to cope with. Everyone says that I need to talk about whatever is bothering me but the thing is that I'm not sure what it is and that's why I feel like a complete idiot at the moment. There's so much stuff going through my mind lately and I wouldn't know where to start and they seem quite trivial in the big scheme of things so I'm concerned about wasting someone's time if I did go and talk to a "professional".
I am trying very hard to get on with things but it seems to be getting more and more difficult to put a brave face on and ignore it all. But how can I sort it out when I don't know what's really wrong? I feel more stupid than depressed right now!
Posted by IsoM on January 9, 2002, at 15:18:15
In reply to feeling stupid again..., posted by ELA on January 9, 2002, at 11:27:06
I'm an older adult, but when I was at university a couple years back, I got to know some of the counsellors & other adults that were in Student Help. They lamented over the fact that so many younger students needed help, counselling, or just inforamtion about schedule/money/social planning but would never use it. That's what they were there for & wished more students would benefit from it. They were practically begging students to get the help they need.
I guess being older, I had no qualms about making use of all the services offered. That's where part of your tuition money goes - you do pay for it so why not use it? I found them to be far less judgemental than doctors, therapists, or psychiatrists were. Probably because many of these workers were also part-time students too & raising families. They had a real insight into all the stresses that go into being a student.
I had allowances made for doing exams at different times if I was sick. I had special quiet rooms to myself to do exams too so I could 'think' outloud. Was given time & a half for exams, even if I didn't use it. Certain projects were altered a little to make it easier for me to work on, etc. By being open & honest with the staff & the professors, allowances were made - not just for me, but for other students who really needed help.
I beg you, for all of them, to please make use of these services. No one will consider you stupid or weak. You'll actually be held in higher regard for taking the steps to get yourself help. Really!
> I am returning to university after the Christmas break on Sunday and to say that I am really worried about it. I was at uni when I was taken seriously ill and that is what lead to my depression, or had a hand in bringing out something that was probably underlying anyway. I'm scared that something else might happen to me. Also, I have been back at the family home for the last 8 weeks getting over everything and now I will effectively be back on my own again.
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> GP says that I need counselling to get over things - my illness was life threatening and I have found it difficult to cope with. Everyone says that I need to talk about whatever is bothering me but the thing is that I'm not sure what it is and that's why I feel like a complete idiot at the moment. There's so much stuff going through my mind lately and I wouldn't know where to start and they seem quite trivial in the big scheme of things so I'm concerned about wasting someone's time if I did go and talk to a "professional".
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> I am trying very hard to get on with things but it seems to be getting more and more difficult to put a brave face on and ignore it all. But how can I sort it out when I don't know what's really wrong? I feel more stupid than depressed right now!
Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2002, at 17:42:51
In reply to feeling stupid again..., posted by ELA on January 9, 2002, at 11:27:06
> I am trying very hard to get on with things but it seems to be getting more and more difficult to put a brave face on and ignore it all. But how can I sort it out when I don't know what's really wrong? I feel more stupid than depressed right now!
IsoM is right. Helping you to sort things out is what counselors are there for. Putting on a brave face is well and fine, but ignoring your troubles will just cause them to fester. Take advantage of whatever resources are available to you and don't feel a bit guilty about it.
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