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Posted by DINGBAT on January 31, 2002, at 4:48:48
Hi, I'm new to psb. I am an ACoA and and ACoD (i.e., Adult child of an Alcoholic father and Adult Child of a neurotic/borderline mother). In South Africa the "Adult Child" stuff hasn't really 'caught on' yet but I have found a skilled therapist (rare!) who talks "AC". At last someone who understands me enough to help me understand myself! Any other Adult Children out there ...
Posted by Rosa on January 31, 2002, at 7:51:57
In reply to Calling all Adult Children ...., posted by DINGBAT on January 31, 2002, at 4:48:48
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> Hi, I'm new to psb. I am an ACoA and and ACoD (i.e., Adult child of an Alcoholic father and Adult Child of a neurotic/borderline mother). In South Africa the "Adult Child" stuff hasn't really 'caught on' yet but I have found a skilled therapist (rare!) who talks "AC". At last someone who understands me enough to help me understand myself! Any other Adult Children out there ...
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Posted by sid on January 31, 2002, at 11:34:54
In reply to Calling all Adult Children ...., posted by DINGBAT on January 31, 2002, at 4:48:48
Yup. My father was an alcoholic. And I have a natural tendency to feel responsible for the world. Although much less than before - actually perhaps not enough now. I aks myself at the end of the day if I hurt anyone. If not, I tell myself I did a good job that day. At times, I had to take care of too many people who should have taken better care of me, so over time I learned to detach myself and selfishly think of my own welfare. I'm starting to exist, which is good and new.
Posted by Fi on January 31, 2002, at 15:04:00
In reply to Calling all Adult Children ...., posted by DINGBAT on January 31, 2002, at 4:48:48
Hi and welcome!
Me too- tho my father stopped drinking in the end, and was later put on antidepressants and now is like a different person.
Its good you are finding some help, including from the messages on here. I agree that there is the risk you end up looking after other people and not yourself. There is also an increased risk of becoming alcoholic and/or depressed- but the extent of that varies. And knowing the risks and taking action to reduce yours can help.
For example, I have seen how alcohol can be used as a way to cope with difficult feelings. So it could be something I took up too, but because I am aware of the risks, its something I take care not to do.
Good luck with your therapy.
Fi
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