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Posted by janejj on February 21, 2002, at 15:37:56
My life is so boring and unfulfiling. I am so fed up sitting on the couch watching TV, internet, walking the dog. Never being able to make a decision. Never being able to follow ideas through to the end. I'm totally in the doldrums.Throughout my life I've always thought the next stage would be better. It always held so much promise, leaving high school, going to University. Now I'm disillusioned, I've never been content and now I'm in one place and can't move on because I'm scared and can't make decisions.
I don't even know who the hell I am or what exactly my opinions are. I change like the wind.
I hate being me !!!
janejj
Posted by Fi on February 21, 2002, at 16:44:49
In reply to So give me coffee and TV.........., posted by janejj on February 21, 2002, at 15:37:56
Just to say I know what you mean (I got home from work around 7.30, and since its been TV and internet and coffee/meal..)
I think its common to feel you kind of fall off the end of a conveyor belt after school/college/training; the whole feel of those is progressing onto something bigger and better.
Then the process just stops. You *may* get promotion or achieve something, but may not either. I know someone whose ambition was to be a nurse in charge of a ward and owning a red sportscar. She achieved these by her mid 20s and was then wailing that she had no idea what to do/aim at anymore.Of course, it doesnt help when it is really hard to make decisions. Partly as trying to decide is an effort in itself, and also that it reflects the fact there isnt a clear choice based on something you really want to do.
Life for me has moved onto trying to appreciate smaller pleasures- I enjoyed some of the TV tonight, and the fact that I am warm and comfortable and restoring (rather than expending) my limited energy supplies. And of course I have enjoyed my psychobabbling!
There's probably something worthwhile to be done about trying to work out what gives you pleasure/satisfaction in life, and going for whichever options in your decisions will add to those basic things (as long as they dont do harm to others). Hedonism without harm? I dont know- there is probably some fancy term for it.I dont always convince myself, mind you. I seem to manage to do remarkably little I really enjoy, even without any family commitments. Then give myself a hard time about not packing in lots of Meaningful Activities into my leisure time (I think I would only be satisfied if a weekend was filled with socialising, decorating, ironing, gardening, reading a wortwhile novel...!)
Anyway, keep at it. And listen to yourself carefully for any signs of enthusiasms or desires which might lead to actions that would make life more interesting!
Fi
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