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Posted by trouble on March 21, 2002, at 18:04:06
Rachel thank you for making me feel like a human being, you and I are struggling w/ the same thing and reading your post made me see you are a good person, so I'm sure I am too.
The answers made it all so simple and solvable. So I sent the lady a brief, honest email, letting the chips fall where they may, and didn't make any hard and fast promises but hinted that she might see me in church Sunday, she's a practitioner there, and the church is good, it's one of my resources but I hardly ever use it, but we'll see.
I don't care for John Bradshaw, but right now I'm in one of his goddamn shame spirals. I do love Leo Bascaglia, and I know what he'd say about shame spirals, people are good when you tell them what's going on, tell them and their hearts will open. It's when they can't fathom your bullshit they tend to get nasty. It makes so much sense. And since I can't keep my lies straight anymore, maybe GETTING REAL (barf) ok, a little more real (that's better) might get me back some version of respect or accountability, something.
thanks,
trouble
Posted by Rach on March 22, 2002, at 0:02:19
In reply to beardy, zo, rach thanks, posted by trouble on March 21, 2002, at 18:04:06
> Rachel thank you for making me feel like a human being, you and I are struggling w/ the same thing and reading your post made me see you are a good person, so I'm sure I am too.
>
> The answers made it all so simple and solvable. So I sent the lady a brief, honest email, letting the chips fall where they may, and didn't make any hard and fast promises but hinted that she might see me in church Sunday, she's a practitioner there, and the church is good, it's one of my resources but I hardly ever use it, but we'll see.
>
> I don't care for John Bradshaw, but right now I'm in one of his goddamn shame spirals. I do love Leo Bascaglia, and I know what he'd say about shame spirals, people are good when you tell them what's going on, tell them and their hearts will open. It's when they can't fathom your bullshit they tend to get nasty. It makes so much sense. And since I can't keep my lies straight anymore, maybe GETTING REAL (barf) ok, a little more real (that's better) might get me back some version of respect or accountability, something.
>
> thanks,
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> trouble
I feel better knowing someone else feels the same way. Today I had a situation where I would normally lie, but I didn't. I decided beforehand I would try and see if an apology without an excuse would work. In this case, it did. Won't work every time, but helpful for some situations.I think I'm relearning honesty. I admitted to my parents last night that I had had some really down days, and they were nothing but supportive, and today they didn't go overboard with calls or anything. So I'm feeling better too.
Posted by Zo on March 22, 2002, at 4:56:06
In reply to Re: beardy, zo, rach thanks, posted by Rach on March 22, 2002, at 0:02:19
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