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Posted by adamie on May 28, 2002, at 15:13:53
please could someone who speaks romanian help me. (edit-- actually u dont need romanian, she speaks english perfectly). this involves my ex-fiance who abandoned me and left me to die when i started to have my severe mental illness, dep, anx, mind torture, head burning so often. i am becoming more suicidal over the months. i need to talk to her. i just recently got her old phone number to work since the area codes were wrong. before she promised that while she couldn't be with me that she would always talk to me. it's funny how before she said she would spend every second with me and now she doesn't even want to talk to me for one second. when i call her all she does is hang up. what she doesn't know is how severe my illness has gotten. we believed it would all go away. i need her to know that it has been getting too hard for me and that i may be dead soon. i just need her to know that i want to just talk to at least ONCE. that if she cares about me at all that this is the least she could do. that i just want to talk to her. she was my life, she was everything. i have cried almost every day since she stopped contact with me. then less but i will never get over her. she made life perfect and even with such a severe illness i would stay alive just for her. because she made it more barable. she made it livable. I JUST want to talk to her. that is all. can someone please call her (she lives in romania). i am so desperate. when i first found the phone ringing to her corrected number my heart was poundinggg. but she would just hang up on me, and then after hang up again.please can someone tell her that my health is deteriorating, and it would make all the difference in the world if she would just talk to me. at least once if she could talk to me (so then i can convince her to keep talking to me). i know she wont be with me. i just want to talk to her. can someone please help me? i can give you the number. the name.
to talk about this privately please e-mail me at adamie18@hotmail.com
please help make my life better. i beg you
Posted by Augusta on May 28, 2002, at 21:47:43
In reply to Can someone help make my life better? plz read, posted by adamie on May 28, 2002, at 15:13:53
Adamie,
I am not, I'm afraid, going to make that phone call for you, but I didn't want you to think that your post was being ignored either.
I know you have had a very rough time of it. But I cannot persuade myself that another attempt to contact this woman will be helpful to you. Adamie, we cannot force others to care about us or help us. This woman has decided for her own reasons to take a different path, and when someone does that, I think we really have to respect their decision, which they have the right to make.
The thing for you to focus on, imho, would be new experiences that could also be rich for you. Sometimes we just cannot go back into the past.
I am really sorry for your pain.
.
Posted by adamie on May 28, 2002, at 21:54:14
In reply to Re: Can someone help make my life better? plz read, posted by Augusta on May 28, 2002, at 21:47:43
people shouldn't have the 'right' to be cruel like what dana has done. she promised a life time together, and a perfect life, she should consider my feelings instead of only her own. i dont want to be with her, of course she wouldn't take me, but all i want is to talk to her. how can she abandon me after everything me and her have been through together. she basically told me long time ago that i am the one who helped her through her suicidal ideations and that she would have done it if she hadn't met me. but aside from that she promised absolutely everything. but every word of hers turns out to be a lie. she has no right to behave the way she does. i mean real rights. not some silly constitution. is it right to kill someone? she basically left me for dead in my biggest time of need.
Posted by Augusta on May 28, 2002, at 22:27:55
In reply to Re: Can someone help make my life better? plz read » Augusta, posted by adamie on May 28, 2002, at 21:54:14
Adamie,
I did not mean in any way to suggest that this woman had a right to hurt you in the way that she obviously has. No one has a right to be cruel. Ever.
This probably won't help you but I will mention it just because it is a coincidence that I find very striking -- I have to tell you that for the last six weeks or so, I have also felt badly treated and most unfairly abandoned by someone I loved and who had made many promises to me. Although I am much, much older than you, I have felt enormous pain over the whole thing and have been having a very hard time getting past it and moving forward.
But Adamie, for both of us, I think the only answer lies in going forward. Even if it is completely and totally unfair and unjust and outrageous, we are not going to be able to change the past. We can only attempt to change the present.
.
Posted by bookgurl99 on May 29, 2002, at 20:21:30
In reply to Can someone help make my life better? plz read, posted by adamie on May 28, 2002, at 15:13:53
Adamie --
I have also had a fiance leave me suddenly, at the development of mental illness. At the time it was the worse thing that had ever happened to me. I felt numb inside, and worthless.
To get through it, I went to therapy, started a job that I liked, and started making new friends. I also started dating around, even before I was ready.
Two years later my life is very different. I still struggle with mental illness at times, but I now have a girlfriend who loves me regardless. She can see who I am beyond the illness. Plus, I have built a life for myself beyond the relationship.
I hope that you can have the same thing someday, and that you can -- for now -- find other things to occupy yourself with than thoughts of her. It's time to start living for _you_.
bookgurl99
Two years
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