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Posted by mair on January 17, 2003, at 11:51:04
Noa
For a variety of reasons, I've spent very little time on the internet lately and even less time visiting this Board. I've also been overcome with feelings I get periodically that I have nothing of value to say to anyone, so posting hasn't seemed like much of an option.
Anyway, I did see your note to me on an already-archived page, and I wanted to thank you for asking about me. I've calmed down some since New Year's and I am trying to follow your advice not to try to change too much at the same time. I decided to try to just work on the exercise piece of things and while I'm not yet on a regular schedule, I am starting to make it more of a priority. How about you?
In my view, the level of discourse rises whenever you're a more active participant on this Board. I can remember lots of times when I'd read one of your posts and felt that you said just what I would like to have said, only better. This was definitely my sentiment when I read your posts on Admin about racist statements. Thank you for those.
I hope you stick around for awhile.
Mair
Posted by lostsailor on January 17, 2003, at 13:09:22
In reply to Noa, posted by mair on January 17, 2003, at 11:51:04
Noa,
I have not come to doc. Bob's in a long time for many of the reasons posted by Mair. Now that I am coming here again, though, I hope you don't split right away b/c I too like your post. But same as Mair, you need to do what's best for you. Let us know though a day before so we can all send you a going away post=:>)
~Tony
Posted by Noa on January 18, 2003, at 10:49:32
In reply to Re: Noa, posted by lostsailor on January 17, 2003, at 13:09:22
Thanks.
Sailor, it is nice to "meet" you, too, and I also enjoy your posts.
Mair, thanks for posting--I was worried about you, dear!!
You should not underestimate the value of your posts. There have been plenty of times I looked forward to seeing your posts, and found them very wise and helpful!! I like "seeing" you here, but of course, you said you have some other reasons for having backed away somewhat. but I hope that the thought about not having any thing to contribute will not keep you from here, becasue I do not agree with that thought.
Even if you don't feel up to writing much, I think just chiming in with a (nm) validation is fine, too. Your presence would be felt here, which I think a bunch of us would like very much.
BUt like you said, you may have other reasons, and I can only respect them. We all need to decide when to be here and when not.
I never really know how long my desire to connect here will last, but at the moment, I don't see it going away real soon. I was thinking it is kind of an awkward thing--I felt a bit funny about coming back--you know, if someone goes away becasue they are feeling better and comes back because they are not, how does that feel to other people here?
Glad you are focusing on one do-able goal. I know that I tend to overwhelm myself with too many goals and then I do nothing.
Posted by lostsailor on January 18, 2003, at 11:53:03
In reply to Re: Noa--Mair and Sailor, posted by Noa on January 18, 2003, at 10:49:32
Noa,
There are many reasons for leaving and coming back. Some, like my-self, for got the addy in the midst of a busy school year> that is when I could still handle school. Some lose Internet access. Some get sick of the nonsense, some, sadly, get too sick.
Noa, if one gets better, leaves and comes back when not doing well, it is not a sign of weakness like you seem to have felt at one time. If anything, it is something that we should all admire. This really demonstrates to all of us the waxing and waning that often occurs with any mental health problem. It also shows a person’s determination to help themselves or give feedback to others that my benefit from a person's posts.
I have been back less then a week and feel better already. Thanks go out to all of you (yes, you too doc bob and your "elves"--no offense intended).
In Peace today; not pieces like usual,
~Tony
Posted by Noa on January 18, 2003, at 13:09:41
In reply to Re: Noa--Mair et all from sailor, posted by lostsailor on January 18, 2003, at 11:53:03
Thanks, Sailor. I was also concerned about what leaving and coming back means to people in terms of the relationships--ie, we develop these quasi-intimate relationships (some people move beyond the quasi and become "real-time" friends, but I have kept mine to the boards). If I care about people and develop these relationships, then leave when I feel better and only come back when I have my needs to meet, will that hurt people in terms of their perceptions of my relating to them as people? I guess I was afraid of being a kind of "opportunist" and that others would be hurt.
I feel better by coming back, too. I think in part because what I read here influenced my thinking about starting fish oil, but also because of the support and validation.
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 18, 2003, at 14:30:35
In reply to Re: Noa--Mair et all from sailor » lostsailor, posted by Noa on January 18, 2003, at 13:09:41
this board is the only place were i can vent
or talk about mental illness.
so very taboo out there.
it is not so much about what they might think-
i dont want the few people left in my life scared away.
i can be me here.
i can be confused here and you all seeem to know just what to say.
i try to post to other to be helpful with my support.i dont feel like i am let into the family yet(i am the evil woman who married into the babble name)
jyl
Posted by Noa on January 18, 2003, at 21:23:44
In reply to Re: Noa--Mair et all from sailor » Noa, posted by justyourlaugh on January 18, 2003, at 14:30:35
>>(i am the evil woman who married into the babble name)
Hmm..that is an intriguing idea...the in-law. I hadn't thought of this board as family actually.We could have some fun with this you know...
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