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Posted by bozeman on March 28, 2003, at 11:50:11
Haven't seen your name around for a while . . . just hoping everything's OK. I think I remember you were going to take some time to ponder all the "what women want" responses you got to one of your most recent posts.
Well, I'm *hoping* your conspicuous absence means you took it all to heart, asked out Yoga Girl, and have been caught up in a whirlwind romance in the real world. This would be a completely logical "just been too busy" situation. Here's hoping!
Or maybe you adopted those kittens and have been BUSY. Kittens are like that -- boy, don't I know!
Anyway, kiss your precious pretty poochies for me and tell them how special they are, and to please take good care of our wonderful friend Bluedog. :-)
With a hug and a smile, hoisting a cup of hot tea in your direction (oops, *now* I'm hoisting it in your direction :-)
bozeman
Posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
In reply to Bluedog? Everything OK?, posted by bozeman on March 28, 2003, at 11:50:11
> Haven't seen your name around for a while . . . just hoping everything's OK. I think I remember you were going to take some time to ponder all the "what women want" responses you got to one of your most recent posts.
>
> Well, I'm *hoping* your conspicuous absence means you took it all to heart, asked out Yoga Girl, and have been caught up in a whirlwind romance in the real world. This would be a completely logical "just been too busy" situation. Here's hoping!
>
> Or maybe you adopted those kittens and have been BUSY. Kittens are like that -- boy, don't I know!
>
> Anyway, kiss your precious pretty poochies for me and tell them how special they are, and to please take good care of our wonderful friend Bluedog. :-)
>
> With a hug and a smile, hoisting a cup of hot tea in your direction (oops, *now* I'm hoisting it in your direction :-)
>
> bozemanHello Bozeman
Are you telepathic or something? Today is the first day that I've loggged onto PB in weeks and I have just spent the morning (Saturday morning here) getting myself up to speed on what's been happening here during my absence. I've only just finished posting in that rather flirtatious thread that you girls all had with lostsailor above when bang....I come across this post of yours. I can't help but noticing that IsoM seems to be absent from the board at the moment as well.
Thankyou for your post...it made me feel really good. I actually wrote you a detailed response but it just disappeared on me. Anyway after my frustrated temper tantrum at losing my post...I just don't understand why my posts disappear at times (it gave me a message that the page had expired?) I am responding with a much shorter post.
No kittens yet and no Yoga Girl yet either but I'm feeling OK at the moment. I've merely had a tough couple of weeks health wise (mentally speaking) but I'm starting to feel better again. I've just given my doggies that big hug and kiss from you (OK, OK.... I admit it was more than just one kiss) and that made me feel even better. VERRY clever of you....do you want to become my therapist?
Anyway I've had some time to process all the information that was sent my way about what women want and I now believe that everything that you girls wrote to me was perfect and true. Sure SOME women only go for supermodel looks or money just like SOME guys do but the great majority just want someone to love who loves them in return.....just like the great majority of guys. I am now in the process of trying to develop a little bit of that swagger that IsoM recommended I should cultivate.
I had a great discussion recently on this topic with my Yoga teacher and she confirmed that the majority of girls are really not all that interested in great looks but the guy merely has to be attractive to them personally but that the whole package is usually the deciding factor. By the way my yoga teacher is recently engaged and she says that she actually finds sensitivity in a guy VERY attractive. (needless to say her fiance is a sensitive guy). Do you think I should admit to my yoga teacher that I have this enormous crush on one of my classmates (ie Yoga Girl) that is distracting me during class?
You know what's really weird....there are some girls in my yoga class who are extremely attractive in the supermodel sense of attractiveness but in my eyes they are no match for Yoga Girl. There is just something about her that I find absolutely irresistable and in MY eyes she is the most attractive girl in class. How would you explain that?
Anyway, a big hug from me for you and your feline babies.
Love
bluedog
Posted by justyourlaugh on March 29, 2003, at 0:08:41
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK? » bozeman, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
blue,
i just wanted to say"dont tell the instructor"
give yoga girl eye contact...
talk to someone else while looking at her from across the room,like you are involved in conversation,yet pulled away by her,,,,
woman love eye contact,,"to her eyes"-not the twins-
read some old 70's mad magazines..aswell-aljaffe,can make any of us giggle like a school girls....
peace
s
Posted by bluedog on March 29, 2003, at 0:27:07
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK?, posted by justyourlaugh on March 29, 2003, at 0:08:41
I've been pondering this for a while and I think you are right in that I shouldn't tell the instructor.
I suppose making eye contact across the room is all part of that swagger (ie self confidence ) that I should be working on.I really appreciate your input. Believe it or not I actually have some old Mad magazines lying around somewhere in my house though I don't have a clue where they are at the moment. I should try and dig them out:)
Peace in return
bluedog
Posted by Alara on March 29, 2003, at 2:20:37
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK? » bozeman, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
Bluedog, your yoga teacher is right. A lot of girls (myself included) are far more interested in what's inside a person than what he looks like. People who focus on looks are usually shallow and insecure..You deserve a better person than that.
Believe it or not, you took a real step forward in talking to your teacher. That took real courage. (A lot of people couldn't do it, trust me. :-) ) Maybe you could take JYL's advice about the eye contact strategy at your next lesson!
Hey Bluedog, I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a rough time over the last couple of weeks. I have had a bit of a struggle with depression lately too. (My work environment is very stressful and competitive, which can be lethal for a sensitive person like me.) The days are getting shorter as winter approaches in Sydney and I hybernate on the weekends.
Hange in there, Bluedog. That's what I'm planning to do.
Alara.
Posted by Dinah on March 29, 2003, at 7:01:49
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK? » bozeman, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
Posted by bozeman on March 30, 2003, at 2:10:47
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK? » bozeman, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
> Hello Bozeman
>
> Are you telepathic or something? Today is the first day that I've loggged onto PB in weeks and I have just spent the morning (Saturday morning here) getting myself up to speed on what's been happening here during my absence. I've only just finished posting in that rather flirtatious thread that you girls all had with lostsailor above when bang....I come across this post of yours. I can't help but noticing that IsoM seems to be absent from the board at the moment as well.
>Please promise you won't *tell* anyone about the telepathy thing. I try to keep it low-key, but sometimes I let it slip, then life gets out of control real fast.
IsoM is around, just not posting prolifically. She's been having computer problems and said she'd been feeling impatient with the world so not posting much. But she's OK I think. She'll chime in if she sees you're back, I'm sure.> Thankyou for your post...it made me feel really good. I actually wrote you a detailed response but it just disappeared on me. Anyway after my frustrated temper tantrum at losing my post...I just don't understand why my posts disappear at times (it gave me a message that the page had expired?) I am responding with a much shorter post.
>Just knowing you're fine is message enough. Sometimes I lose a post, but I can usually recover it if I stop and take a deep breath, and hit the "back" button on the browser. If I close the window, it's gone, but if I hit "back" I can sometimes save it. Let me know if that works for you (I'm using IE version 5something and I wonder if it works on others.)
> No kittens yet and no Yoga Girl yet either but I'm feeling OK at the moment. I've merely had a tough couple of weeks health wise (mentally speaking) but I'm starting to feel better again. I've just given my doggies that big hug and kiss from you (OK, OK.... I admit it was more than just one kiss) and that made me feel even better. VERRY clever of you....do you want to become my therapist?
>Pet therapy is just about the best therapy in the world, I think. Snuggling a warm loving creature who adores the very air you breathe . . . there's nothing like it. Snuggling a warm loving adult is a close second, but it's not quite the same as that absolute unconditional worship you get from (and give to) an awesome pet.
Sometimes I have an uncanny gift for knowing what people need to hear. Sometimes I'm just plain lucky, and sometimes I'm way off base. Don't know if I'm really qualified to be your therapist, but I'm a great listener, and you can bounce ideas off me anytime.
> Anyway I've had some time to process all the information that was sent my way about what women want and I now believe that everything that you girls wrote to me was perfect and true. Sure SOME women only go for supermodel looks or money just like SOME guys do but the great majority just want someone to love who loves them in return.....just like the great majority of guys. I am now in the process of trying to develop a little bit of that swagger that IsoM recommended I should cultivate.
>Absolutely!! I'm so glad you've come to that conclusion. You work on that swagger and you'll have nice ladies (not the snooty ones, but nice ones) swooning over you at the supermarket, among other places.
> I had a great discussion recently on this topic with my Yoga teacher and she confirmed that the majority of girls are really not all that interested in great looks but the guy merely has to be attractive to them personally but that the whole package is usually the deciding factor. By the way my yoga teacher is recently engaged and she says that she actually finds sensitivity in a guy VERY attractive. (needless to say her fiance is a sensitive guy). Do you think I should admit to my yoga teacher that I have this enormous crush on one of my classmates (ie Yoga Girl) that is distracting me during class?
>I'd say your yoga teacher is like most women in the civilized world. Sensitive men ARE sexy. They don't have to be sissy to be sensitive. There's a difference, just like women don't have to be prissy to be feminine. But even though your teacher is like other women (maybe *because* she's like other women?) I wouldn't tell her how you feel about Yoga Girl. She'd be too excited at the prospect of love in the air (since she's newly engaged herself and high on romance, in all probability) and would probably slip and say something at a less than optimal time (not intentionally, but just because she was so . . . happy.)
> You know what's really weird....there are some girls in my yoga class who are extremely attractive in the supermodel sense of attractiveness but in my eyes they are no match for Yoga Girl. There is just something about her that I find absolutely irresistable and in MY eyes she is the most attractive girl in class. How would you explain that?
>NOW you're catching on to why we women aren't the most attracted to the "handsomest" guy on the street. We're more attracted to the "normal Joe" who has something in his eyes, his smile, or his swagger, that looks interesting. That whole package thing again. I actually wonder sometimes if being *too* attractive isn't a handicap, because people like that might never learn normal social skills and functioning because they are always treated differently from that "90% average" bunch of us.
You're attracted to who Yoga Girl *is*. She's pretty, and that's great, but you see *her* peeking out from behind her eyes, how she moves, her smile, and it makes you want to know more.
I think JYL's advice was probably right on. The first time, don't approach her directly, talk to someone else but "can't take my eyes off of you" in her direction. Do that twice if you need to. Then say "Hi." Then say, "Hi, I'm Bluedog" After a couple weeks of greeting each other, maybe ask her for tea or coffee to a shop (public place.) If it goes well, ask her out (public place.) Take all the time you need, but even if you don't ever do anything but look at her appreciatively and respectfully, and say "hi" to her, you'll make an impression on her, and it'll be something you were able to do without vapor-locking (as is so easy to do if you've been out of the game for a while, as have I.)
> Anyway, a big hug from me for you and your feline babies.
>Thanks, bluedog. They love hugs, and so do I. Zorro is finally well, and better for the experience (he actually trusts me more.) Wally is still a snugglebug who likes to wallow all over me and nuzzle his cold wet nose in my ear. Sulley has finally broken into the "kitty circle" and is accepted by the other two, has re-gained his weight so he's not a shadow kitty, has finished cutting his teeth and has almost stopped growing. Wally (in my lap) says "PUUUURRRRRRRRR, can we go to bed now? It's laaaaaate." And, of course, he's right. So, off I go.
> Love
> bluedogHope you're having a wonderful Sunday, Bluedog. Glad you're feeling better. I had a virus for several weeks that nearly knocked me full for a loop, but I'm slowly getting better now.
Lots of love and big warm hugs
bozeman
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