![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 9 of 9. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
Main Entry: 1love
Pronunciation: 'l&v
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English lufu; akin to Old High German luba love, Old English lEof dear, Latin lubEre, libEre to please
Date: before 12th century
1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b : an assurance of love <give her my love>
2 : warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
3 a : the object of attachment, devotion, or admirationor
love noun
1 [U] strong feelings of attraction towards, and affection for, another adult, or great affection for a friend or family member:
"I've been seeing him over a year now." "Is it love?"
Children need to be shown lots of love.
"I'm seeing Laura next week." "Oh, please give her my love" (= tell her I am thinking about her with affection).
INFORMAL How's your love life (= your romantic and/or sexual relationships) these days?2 [C] a person that you love and feel attracted to:
He was the love of my life.
She was my first love.3 [as form of address] UK INFORMAL used as a friendly form of address:
You look tired, love.
why isn't it all that simple????
~t
Posted by slinky on July 25, 2003, at 19:39:51
In reply to does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
guess people are afraid of it cause it may hurt if not returned...so hide it
I hate myself ..it's hard to know love...although a longing brings a small hope.I almost did the deed today..stupid.
Can't cope with reality nowadays..damn depakote took my dreams away.I hope you Don't lose hope
Love maybe isn't everything but it would sure help a lot.
There are many emotional sharks out there.
Posted by justyourlaugh on July 25, 2003, at 20:02:43
In reply to does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
"its only love,
and that is all"...
best beatles line..
there is so much more than love...
love alone can not keep ones tied..
love is a wonderful verb?
j
Posted by tina on July 25, 2003, at 22:42:53
In reply to Re: does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by justyourlaugh on July 25, 2003, at 20:02:43
I think love can be an evil word too though. Love makes one do things that one would never have even contemplated before feeling that love.
I wish it was all good but most times, it's both good and evil.
sorry tony. wish I was helpful but I rarely am.
I think I put so much pressure on that little four letter word that I am inevitably disappointed.
I dont think it should be so complicated either but things involving more than one human being are rarely simple.
hugs tony
Tina
Posted by Tabitha on July 26, 2003, at 0:36:16
In reply to does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
Tony honey, is it time to put your personal ad out there someplace? You want it, you deserve it, you can find it.
Posted by Dinah on July 26, 2003, at 5:10:59
In reply to does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
So have hope. Sometimes, with the right person, it can be sweet, and easy, and wonderfully comfortable. And if not happily ever after, then at least happily-enough ever after.
If you like the comfy sort of love.
You just need to cast wide your net so as to have the best chance of catching that person who's up to the hard work of building a life with you (not you specifically, you understand. any life-building is hard.)
Just thought I'd put in a voice for the more positive side of love.
Posted by lostsailor on July 27, 2003, at 7:07:57
In reply to Re: It doesn't always have to be... » lostsailor, posted by Dinah on July 26, 2003, at 5:10:59
I know. I remember, but just want it again. This next I want to be with the right person though. One who can really understand. You know what I mean??
Posted by lostsailor on July 27, 2003, at 7:10:16
In reply to Re: does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by Tabitha on July 26, 2003, at 0:36:16
oh, tabby, ty. I just can't imagine using a personal add--sigh. Goodness, I am thinking of what it would say and think most subscribers would want refunds...lmao
~tony
Posted by KimberlyDi on July 29, 2003, at 10:32:42
In reply to does this seem nearly as complicated as it is???, posted by lostsailor on July 25, 2003, at 18:42:40
LostSailor,
My definition of love has evolved from my younger years through mid-20's, to what it is now. My early definition of love is how i wanted someone else to make me feel: secure, safe, loved, wanted, happy. I was unable to feel these things by myself. Now, I understand that love is alittle simpler. For me to love, it means giving freely of my affection and appreciation without expectations. I love my husband and my son for their good qualities and try to be understanding and accepting about their bad qualities. I try to make certain that when I tell him that I love him, that it IS because I love him, and not because I need reassurance that he still loves me.What seems complicated to me isn't giving love, it's receiving love, which might boil down to "needing love". A needy person (which I used to be and fight not to be again) needs more reassurance and control over a relationship that an emotionally healthy partner can deal with. Needy people attract more needy people=2 sick people trying to save each other. Been there, done that.
Love is simple. We make it complicated.
My 2 cents & 2 paragraphs worth?
Sorry for being long-winded and not taking the time to follow this thread to the beginning. I'm not accusing anyone of being needy. :) Oh, and I'm a believer now in the theory that you have to love and accept yourself first before you can trust that anyone else will.
KDi in Texas> Main Entry: 1love
> Pronunciation: 'l&v
> Function: noun
> Etymology: Middle English, from Old English lufu; akin to Old High German luba love, Old English lEof dear, Latin lubEre, libEre to please
> Date: before 12th century
> 1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b : an assurance of love <give her my love>
> 2 : warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
> 3 a : the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration
>
> or
>
> love noun
> 1 [U] strong feelings of attraction towards, and affection for, another adult, or great affection for a friend or family member:
> "I've been seeing him over a year now." "Is it love?"
> Children need to be shown lots of love.
> "I'm seeing Laura next week." "Oh, please give her my love" (= tell her I am thinking about her with affection).
> INFORMAL How's your love life (= your romantic and/or sexual relationships) these days?
>
> 2 [C] a person that you love and feel attracted to:
> He was the love of my life.
> She was my first love.
>
> 3 [as form of address] UK INFORMAL used as a friendly form of address:
> You look tired, love.
>
>
> why isn't it all that simple????
> ~t
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.