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Posted by sarita0001 on July 31, 2003, at 11:05:27
HI,
Has anyone regretted something so much that they constantly think about what they could have done to have avoided it? I took this medicine from Jan-May and suffered a lot of side effects from it, the bad ones being cosmetic, and I feel like it is all my fault. Even though I am going to make legal inquiries to the company, the results are still irreversible. Every day I feel so guilty and I never have felt like this before. If anyone can offer advice about how to get over this, I would appreciate it.
Thanks.
Posted by fallsfall on July 31, 2003, at 12:01:18
In reply to Regret is the worst..., posted by sarita0001 on July 31, 2003, at 11:05:27
Were there warnings that came with the medication about these problems?
Were you being monitored by a physician?
Was there any reasonable way for you to have known what was happening?
Lots of times things like this are just accidents. There really isn't someone at "fault". It is unfortunate that it occurred, but there isn't anything you can do about it now.
There is something called "Radical Acceptance". That means that you accept reality the way it is. Lots of times we try to argue with reality, we want reality to be different. But reality IS. All you really have is control over the future. The past is done and can't be changed. But you can change the future. You can decide what you will do and whether it will help you to be happier or miserable.
This is really difficult to do, but until you let go of the past you can't move into the future.
(I fight with this because of my 8 year depression. I want this not to be the case. I want someone/something to reverse it - so I won't be depressed anymore. But that doesn't happen. When I look at what I can do to either get better or to cope with how depressed I am, then I can make some progress.)
I wish you luck. You show such strength by making this post.
Posted by sarita0001 on July 31, 2003, at 13:50:09
In reply to Re: Regret is the worst... » sarita0001, posted by fallsfall on July 31, 2003, at 12:01:18
Hi,
I was warned about the most common side effects- I got the rarest ones. The problem is that they continue after 3 months being off, but are slowing down and hopefully will stop soon.
I was talking to a doctor often- because of this I've lost trust in doctors. You're right it's no one's fault, but I think because the medicine is fairly new he could have told me about the possibility of other side effects. It was not FDA approved for weight loss(the reason I took it).It's just one of those things like "I've been through enough already"- it sounds like you know what I mean.You offer very kind and practical words. The hardest things to get over are the things you can't change. And although we're both "veterans" of some sort(7 years bipolar) it doesn't seem to get easier but it better to just make the best of it.
Thanks so much.
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