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Posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
Holy moly! What a cat fight brewing on the admin page there. Gee, what ever happened to the days when Cam would post something that IsoM would answer to that Roo would add a comment to and Alli and Zo and Wendy would discuss then Susan C. would add her mouse-woman logic to, that then would have had Sar asking about things that maybe only Kid_a could have answered. And Pax, well, Pax was just a new kid on the block eager to fit in. Seems like the comraderie has devolved into one-upmanship. Civility? By any other name remains subjectively undefined. Where did these new kids come from with so much need to exhibit such hostility? What's their point? Playing games of "he said-she-said" brinkmanship. What is to be gained by affecting a posture that by pulling someone else down, the other will be somehow be pulled up? In who's eyes does that sort of logic fly?
PAX
Posted by Dinah on August 6, 2003, at 16:50:21
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
I have no idea how this should be answered.
I'm sorry I'm not the posters who used to be here?
Sorry you're feeling bad, Pax.
Posted by gabbix2 on August 6, 2003, at 16:57:02
In reply to Re: Ummmm....... » paxvox, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2003, at 16:50:21
It seemed so much better before but
I thought Kid_A was A very Little Sphinx. Or am I completely out to lunch? Isn't that part of the whole thing?
Posted by Dinah on August 6, 2003, at 17:06:10
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
Pax, I was more or less serious. Things can't go back to the way they were. Nothing can. I hope you can meet some new people here who you can enjoy in perhaps a different way.
I always hate to see posters I've grown to like move on, but I'm always so happy to meet the new ones. It's like opening a Christmas present.
I can see that you hurt about this. The board must mean something special to you.
Posted by stjames on August 6, 2003, at 17:10:03
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along? » paxvox, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2003, at 17:06:10
I miss the old days, 2-3 years ago. No blocks, because they were not needed.
Posted by gabbix2 on August 6, 2003, at 17:14:51
In reply to sorry , posted by gabbix2 on August 6, 2003, at 16:57:02
I shouldn't just have specified one poster cause actually I am awed by Kid-A's/Sphinx's writing, and even if I weren't it's not really my business who is who, unless its meant to be hurtful.
What I was trying to point out is, I don't think
one group of posters can be held up as 'better' than another or should be.
People have been asking
"Why can't we all get along?" since we were first able to form thought.
Its as simple as the fact that we all think differently, and its easily as much a blessing here as it is difficulty.
I think for people in such pain, as a group we
do an incredible, inspiring job of working out differences, and reaching beyond ourselves to understand and care for each other through seemingly impossible circumstances.
Posted by zenhussy on August 6, 2003, at 18:54:57
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
People are by nature insecure Pax. Bound to be pissin' matches that pop up. I really hate to see you leave but totally respect and understand your reasons for doing so.
With kindness,
zenhussy
Posted by giget on August 7, 2003, at 9:01:26
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
That is why I took a break from this place. It was bringing me down more than helping.
There are some unknowing, I think, people who are doing more harm than help here.
Posted by lostsailor on August 7, 2003, at 10:19:24
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along? » paxvox, posted by giget on August 7, 2003, at 9:01:26
I am kind of going thru the same thing right now. Lurking a bit, posting to those that have helped me and others, but avoiding many threads and posters who, like you mentioned, may say things that damage some without any ill intent.
I guess what hurts some, may in fact benefit many, though.
Good luck,
~tony
Posted by zenhussy on August 7, 2003, at 10:30:19
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along?--giget, posted by lostsailor on August 7, 2003, at 10:19:24
This is an amazing observation of this site sailor:
> I guess what hurts some, may in fact benifit many, though.
>
zh
Posted by Phil on August 7, 2003, at 14:40:11
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
I got really burnt out here because I would go to administration. Best bet is to avoid it because it represents the exact opposite of the boards purpose. Instead of the usually entertaining conversations going on, I would meander to admin; got angrier and more depressed every time I went.
Maybe some people could request no access to admin. I think we discussed that before.
Anyway, I know where you are coming from Pax.
Posted by gabbix2 on August 7, 2003, at 16:17:38
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along? » paxvox, posted by Phil on August 7, 2003, at 14:40:11
I'm sorry, I guess I wasn't here when things were
calmer, and I believe you that there was a time
that they were. I'm sorry for making a judgement on something I didn't even have knowledge of.
And I was actually thinking of Social Babble not Admin.
The first time I went to admin I was so
horrified I posted about it On Social BAbble
and swore I was never going back, and I hardly do
unless I'm really upset about someone being blocked.
I stick my foot in my mouth a lot, and it'll probably happen again, but I'll apologize again too.
Posted by susan C on August 10, 2003, at 20:57:31
In reply to Why can't we all just get along?, posted by paxvox on August 6, 2003, at 15:56:21
Hi all, I just read through the WHOLE thread, I am so proud of myself. I know what you mean, Pax. Things do seem different...but then, time has passed, maybe there are more people now (you know the whole actual numbers and percentages game)...but I do have to say, I remember when the blocks happened back then too. The fur did fly. I haven't visited Admin in a verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry long time, for that reason. I figured I did not need that stress in my life. I also discovered there were some people I could not deal with, and it took me a long time to figure out how to supervise myself here. Remember, even then, a lot of people had to learn how to "behave" (oh be-hhaaaaaaaaave).
Now, since, oh, last October, I have been feeling much better, I spend very little time hunting for answers on line. I try to keep in touch. Checking in here, perhaps monthly, rather than multiple times a day, chatting for who knows how long? No, no, don't answer that Dinah.
Interesting, thinking about that time, 2-3 years ago. This board was my life-line, my life saver. I found here more people who understood what was going on with me than I have found anywhere, and in a format, an impersonal screen and keyboard in my living room, to express myself anony-mouse-ly to.
Somewhere, sometime, here, someone wrote that now that they felt better, they promised they would always be checking in. When I read that I said, when that day comes for me, this site will always be hearing from me. Maybe not as much as when I really need it, but I will keep myself available.
You guys are the greatest.
Keep posting
mouse on a "sun-shiney day"
Posted by Dinah on August 11, 2003, at 7:59:42
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along?, posted by susan C on August 10, 2003, at 20:57:31
Chuckle. Not chatting often enough, Mouse. Not often enough. :)
But I'm really glad for the reason. I always keep you in mind as the example of how much better things can get. I hope you keep basking in that sunshine for a long, long time.
Posted by paxvox on August 14, 2003, at 17:03:19
In reply to Re: Why can't we all just get along?, posted by susan C on August 10, 2003, at 20:57:31
Susan. Really miss hearing from you, so I will make this one brief hiyas from my self-imposed exile.
PAX
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