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Posted by blink23 on November 6, 2003, at 15:31:31
OK.. here i go, Ive looked all around this website to find which what catorgory this may go under. But comming up on November 17 will be 2 years since I have been raped. It actully was somebody who I knew and could not press charges. anyway, I did back then go to a therpist but did not find it any help at that point. Things were all just a blurr to me, I didnt wanna talk about anything.After a couple of weeks of trying to block it so far away I started feeling a little better like i got rid of the pain. Trying to get back in the grove of things again. It was just really hard to function. But, As time went on depression started to kick in with major anxiety and that is when my doctor put me on Zoloft. Not a therpist. That worked great for me. I felt ok again and was able to function. about 11 months went by and those feelings started comming back to me, and i brought that to my doctors attention and that is when she recommened me to see a therpist. So I make an appt. But I didnt wanna talk about my past I just wanted her to adjust my meds, give me something that works better. So she then put me on wellbutrion and kept me on the zoloft, and of course she wants me to keep comming atleast once a month, But now I do wanna try and talk to her about things, but i guess i dont know how is my problem.. I read on here about you guys talking and having a communction bond between your therpist, and i feel i have that, but i feel really embarassed to talk to her about my past....Please Help I know I need to talk to someone about all this.. I havent done that, and i know it will make me feel so much better. How do you do it????????
Posted by LynneDa on November 6, 2003, at 16:33:55
In reply to What Do You Say.., posted by blink23 on November 6, 2003, at 15:31:31
Hi! I'm sorry for what happened to you. It sounds like you found some relief through meds. But, I'm glad to hear you're ready to talk about your past. You're right, it will help . . . now that you are ready. It probably wouldn't have helped before! Maybe the months on ADs have helped you to heal, put some distance between you and it.
When I can't talk, I write. Maybe you can get the dialog going that way. I wrote my therapist a note about my situation. At first she'd read it to herself and then we'd talk. Then in another session, she'd make me read my current note to her - very hard, but I did it. Then, I was able to talk more freely after a couple more sessions. This is what your therapist has been waiting for, she will welcome the chance to hear what you have to say!!!!!
Good luck, I know you will find the help you need now that you are ready!
~Lynne
Posted by karen_kay on November 6, 2003, at 18:14:49
In reply to What Do You Say.., posted by blink23 on November 6, 2003, at 15:31:31
I find that when I want to say something to my therapist and don't really know how I just blurt it out. I just wnat to get it out so I don't have time to think about it and then we can discuss it. I dont' know if that is the best way to do it, but if I have time to think "Should I or shouldn't I", then I tend to side with the "I shoudn't". I know what you are going through must be very hard, but you will feel so much better having someone to speak with about it. And it seems they always have the right thing to say! Good luck, and you can always post here if you need extra support! Karen
Posted by blink23 on November 6, 2003, at 22:00:55
In reply to Re: What Do You Say.., posted by karen_kay on November 6, 2003, at 18:14:49
That helps me out a little bit on starting to communicate with her, but the thing is about 2 months i guess; We were just in the session for follow up with the medication and how it makes me feel and stuff, and for some reason I just came out litterly I blurted it out of no where and told her what happened. I was actually shocked myself that i did that, after she asked me to talk about it, i told her that it was an anquaintances boyfriends 2 friends, and that I couldnt press charges becuse they both said it was consentiual....and then thats it i just broke down. like i froze and couldnt talk any more just started hysterical crying like i did in the begning with the first therpist, so thats kinda where im stuck, I feel like ok she knows what happened to me, thinks i dont wanna talk about it, i know she wouldnt avoid the conversation if I brought it up, but its like 2 months ago this happened. and know its comming around again. I just feel weird on bringing it up again to her. My bigest thing is I think is that before all this happened I was a VERY strong person emotionaly, mentally, and physically.Had a great personality, got along with anyone. I just enjoyed life. I feel like I lost the emotional part because i was used to always turning the bad to good, you know I spoke my feelings things would have to turn out the right way, or there was trouble ya know..and the thing that really ticks me off is that these 2 shi** who did this to me walk away with nothing, NO charges and they got on with there life like nothing happened..and i know who these people are..and that kills me ..and Im still here. Mentally and physically I am just drained on trying to think I am the same person I was!!
Posted by fallsfall on November 9, 2003, at 11:49:39
In reply to Re: What Do You Say.., posted by blink23 on November 6, 2003, at 22:00:55
Sometimes it helps to start the conversation by saying how hard it is for you to talk, or that you are afraid you will just start crying again. Even if the therapist doesn't know the topic, they can start with your fears of talking and move it on from there. Good luck
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