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Posted by blink23 on December 17, 2003, at 18:11:39
My delimma of the day...LONG... Last night me and my fiance were sitting around just talking about what ever, and the sublect of being cathloic comes up???? Yes im Cathloic and i grew up going to church. He knows my history with it and i do beleive in what he does and he trys to teach me little at a time and i listen to him speak. But he is a very firm beleiver and really likes to get in the convo about it. I let him talk and just listened....and once i spoke up about something and he didnt like what i had to say....He tells me that I wanna know to much about the wrong stuff.. Not enough about what he beleives in.. ; Meaning that I care about more realistic, life situations, rather then the religion or politics? stuff like that.. And i told him that is what makes who u r and who i am...We have not spoken a word since last night. It has been over 2 years that we have been together and this is the first time we have fought about something and have not talked....Am I At Fault???????????
Posted by LynneDa on December 19, 2003, at 10:07:11
In reply to DILEMMA of the day, posted by blink23 on December 17, 2003, at 18:11:39
Hi! It's been a couple of days - have you spoken again? To answer your question, I don't think you are at fault. It sounds more like a communication gap . . . like Catholicism and your questions are not really the issue. More that you are not hearing what he wants you to hear - not giving enough time to what he thinks is important. A discussion may need to be had that sets some groundrules about listening thoroughly before moving on to another aspect of the subject and giving both of you the chance to air your feelings?
Or, maybe he was just having a needy day and didn't get the attention to his talking that he expected.
OR, there could be something else he's aggravated about and that was a convenient situation to pick on and dump out about.
I say all these "ORs" cuz my husband and I have all these types of things happen from time to time. It is inevitable and could just mean you are really getting comfortable with each other and able to totally be yourselves (for better or worse)!
Good luck and talk it through with him!
~ Lynne
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