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Posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:56:34
A year ago tomorrow I lost a good friend to a car accident. I remember going to therapy the next day and coloring with the crayons and asking my T if it was ok if I didn't talk about it. So we just sat there, and I colored, and we talked about what artists we liked, and totally didn't do any therapy. And then a few days later, at the memorial service, I bawled and bawled and couldn't stop. I soaked a whole packet of tissues. He was a wonderful guy, and there were tons of people at the service. And I sat with lots of friends, and we all just cried our eyes out. I wish the really great people got some kind of special dispensation so they could have long happy lives. He was the kind of guy that really changed the world for the better. He made everyone feel so welcome and special. Everyone was in a better mood as soon as he showed up anywhere. I miss him lots and lots.
So I'm sad, and I just wanted to explain this somewhere. I suppose I should post this on grief, but I don't know the folks there. I hope this doesn't seem like a downer. Actually, thinking about him makes me smile and laugh as well.
- p
Posted by octopusprime on February 13, 2004, at 0:32:46
In reply to Anniversary of friend's death, posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:56:34
pegasus, that was a touching tribute to your friend.
i am sorry for your loss.
taking time to remember is important. so's smiling and laughing. it keeps your friend alive in your heart, where he'll always be.
take care
Posted by gardenergirl on February 13, 2004, at 16:21:33
In reply to Anniversary of friend's death, posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:56:34
This is eerie. Today is the anniversary of your friend's death. Today I was looking at a bunch of pictures I found in my attic that I had forgotten I had. I reached in and one of the first I found was of me and a friend who died of AIDS about 9 or 10 years ago. Do you suppose your friend and mine are watching out for us together?
Please take extra care of yourself today. Remember the whole person you cared about.
(((pegasus)))
gg
Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 19:46:31
In reply to Anniversary of friend's death, posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:56:34
He sounds like a wonderful person. And it is wonderful that you can honor his memory by smiling and laughing just as he would probably want.
Posted by pegasus on February 13, 2004, at 22:51:10
In reply to Anniversary of friend's death, posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:56:34
Thanks you guys. ((((babblers))) I appreciate your responses.
Today I had a session with my T, and I just cried and cried and told her all about what a great guy he was. And then I felt better. I think I just wanted to tell someone how great he was, and what a loss to the world it is that he's gone. She also made a bunch of links to what we'd been talking about last week with my old T leaving town, and other important people who disappeared on me. It was a big time bawling session.
And then I went shoe shopping. In honor of my friend's happy spirit - knowing that he'd want me to do something nice for myself when feeling so bad. So, now I'll probably think of him whenever I wear my new shoes. I think that's a good thing.
GG, I like the idea of our friends watching out for us today. :)
- p
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