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Posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 18:12:40
Does anybuddy have any information on what this is? Do you know is there any way to get the abuser to see how abusive they are being?
Thakns
Sienna
Posted by Poet on March 9, 2004, at 20:07:55
In reply to Emotional Abuse, posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 18:12:40
Hi Sienna,
I was emotionally abused by my older brother throughout my childhood. All my parents did was say leave your sister alone when he bullied me. He didn't hit me, but his words hit hard.
My parents have been arguing with each other non-stop for over 50 years. As a kid I used to beg them to get a divorce, but they probably didn't hear me.
What I'm working on in therapy is to stop blaming myself for what happened when I was little. I need to forgive myself, that's more important than confronting my brother. It's also hard.
Poet
Posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 20:22:52
In reply to Re: Emotional Abuse » sienna, posted by Poet on March 9, 2004, at 20:07:55
my dad and older brother verbally and physically abused me too. it has all but ruined me. i am a strong person now, but apparently not so much as i had thought. i have let someone crush my feelings and break my heart. i give the world and they just belittle me over and over.
im so sorry that you had so much pain growing up. it is so hard. i know just when i think i am through it it gets hard again.
Sienna
p.s. my parents would tell my brother not to hit me but he did anyway and they didnt do anything. people can be so hurtful.
Posted by Wildflower on March 10, 2004, at 12:12:32
In reply to Emotional Abuse, posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 18:12:40
Sienna,
I'm sorry if you're experiencing this. I had it happen to me with my last boyfriend. There really was nothing I could do except leave the situation. However, the wounds are far from healing.
There are quite a few links on the web if you type "emotional abuse" into any web...
Posted by Sabina on March 10, 2004, at 14:09:52
In reply to Emotional Abuse, posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 18:12:40
i live in a home where my only companion in the world stares at a computer screen whenever i speak, even if it's only to ask, 'when would you like your dinner,' and regularly leaves the room while i'm still speaking or interrupts me in the middle of a sentence. apologies do come occasionally (when it gets extra bad), but the effects are devastating and cumulative. it makes me feel subhuman.
i do think this is crappy treatment, if not emotional abuse, but i don't have the power or leverage to make it stop.
Posted by sienna on March 11, 2004, at 18:01:26
In reply to Re: Emotional Abuse » sienna, posted by Wildflower on March 10, 2004, at 12:12:32
hi again
we did break up.
it might not be over though.
its hard because he is very unhappy of other things.
im sorry you went through it to.
i read some stuff and seems that he did some but not all of it.
mostly is withdrawn.
my heart hurts so much.
sienna
Posted by sienna on March 11, 2004, at 18:03:54
In reply to Re: Emotional Abuse, posted by Sabina on March 10, 2004, at 14:09:52
oh Sabina
i know how you feel.
it is so hard.
i like give give give waiting for just a litlte tiny bit of love and then i get it and hope for more.
its terrible.
but i understand he is in pain.
i dont know of your paartner, i know it is so hard.
i just keep giving more, but i htin it is the wrong thing to do.
i am leaving him alone now and hopeing he will miss me.
part of me wants it to end.
part of me wants him back.
im so confused.i know i never had power to stop it either.
i feel so weak. i wish i could fix for us all.sienna
Posted by kellyr on March 11, 2004, at 21:19:59
In reply to Emotional Abuse, posted by sienna on March 9, 2004, at 18:12:40
> Does anybuddy have any information on what this is? Do you know is there any way to get the abuser to see how abusive they are being?
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> Thakns
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> Sienna
my mother was and still is very abusive to me, when i was a kid she hit, throw things at me & call me every name in the book. she hit me so much that i lost 30% of my hearing in my left ear, & a died tooth from her hit me across the room into the counter top. she did get better after all this yrs. but she sometime falls back in her old ways & says things that hurt me. she knows what she did to me but will never say that she did it, & i can't say anything to her, i'm still afaid of her after all these yrs. I would like to put her in her place, but i don't know if it would make things worst then it is,so the only thing i can say is get yourself strong & when something is say to you it will just roll right off. if you like to read this book helped me alot, it should me that i wasn't alone that someone else went through the samething i went through.(almost beating to death)."A CHILD CALLED IT" by Dave pelzer or go to www.davepelzer.com
kellyr.
Posted by Sabina on March 12, 2004, at 21:03:33
In reply to Re: Emotional Abuse, posted by sienna on March 11, 2004, at 18:03:54
sienna,
i am so sorry for your hard time. it can be such a confusing and painful situation when the person who is supposed to love you the most lashes out at you with harsh words or shuts you out completely. maybe this time apart will inspire him to make some much needed changes in himself (for himself) while giving you time to remember that you're worth better treatment than he was able to provide. i hope we can all remember that we deserve to be treated with respect.
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