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Posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2004, at 3:49:23
In reply to Recovering/repairing old friendships, posted by skeptic on April 20, 2004, at 11:37:03
> I'm wondering how others on this board deal with trying to recover or repair old friendships that may have gone bad due to painful events in the past.
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> I used to apologize and ask for forgiveness a lot, but now I find myself, primarily out of fear, forcing myself to forget (not always an easy task) and hoping that at least some will take the opportunity to reach out to me.
Posted by EtktRide on April 22, 2004, at 7:47:27
In reply to Recovering/repairing old friendships « skeptic, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2004, at 3:49:23
I ask forgiveness if I am at fault. If they refuse to give it, then it is in their court at that point.
If I am not at fault, and the person is really important to me, I ask them if we can move past this for the sake of our friendship. Again, if they do not agree, then really, I have no choice but to go on without the friendship.
Posted by smokeymadison on April 22, 2004, at 10:29:29
In reply to Re: Recovering/repairing old friendships, posted by EtktRide on April 22, 2004, at 7:47:27
but do you ever get to the point where it is understandable that they don't put up with you anymore? i am at that point right now. my friends might be better off w/out me. sorry to be so negative.
Posted by 64Bowtie on April 23, 2004, at 14:02:47
In reply to Re: Recovering/repairing old friendships, posted by smokeymadison on April 22, 2004, at 10:29:29
>...my friends might be better off w/out me.
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<<<Hi, Smokey,
Don't wait for them to catch up. Who you are, is who you are, is who you are. Whatever you do, or did, is their opinion. You can't wait for their flakey opinions to catch up to who you are. Go tackle something else, and they will fade..., from view....Rod
Posted by Angela2 on April 25, 2004, at 19:33:11
In reply to Recovering/repairing old friendships « skeptic, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2004, at 3:49:23
I feel like she wasn't such a good friend if she couldn't stay with me through my hard time. I didn't always feel that way. I used to wonder why she decided to break contact with me. I went through a pretty awful time last summer and she was there for me. Then she went back to college and stopped answering my messages. I feel like we didn't have much in common so its not a big loss. But I didn't always feel this way, because I used to value her friendship. Only recently have I come to this conclusion. I still wish I could ask her what made her want not to stay in contact with me.
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