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Posted by Snoozin on June 25, 2004, at 9:27:30
The bad one is, I used to have a really close best friend from college. We hung out every weekend for years and years and called each other just to chat most every day. She started dating a guy and he got included on a lot of stuff we did together, but not all, and everything seemed great.
They got married in 98 and she pretty much disappeared immediately. Went from chatting every day to NEVER calling. Months go by now without my hearing from her. I was very hurt in 98, but accepted it and moved on, relegating that friendship to a more casual one.
Last week I got an invitation to a surprise baby shower for her and her husband. I'm really pretty hurt to have found out she's pregnant through an invitation. I haven't spoken to her since August. Plus, she had lupus as a teen and the whole pregnancy issue was extremely difficult for her, so this is SUPER HUGE GOOD NEWS for her.
I'm just pretty hurt about that whole thing. I'm not good enough to call personally, but I'm good enough to be put on a shower list so I can be a personal shopper and get her something off her registry. ??
Good news: I have a crush on a 24-year-old guy at work, and I think he's flirting back. :-) (I'm 36, so it's weird). Anyway, it's making me smile......
Susan
Posted by octopusprime on June 25, 2004, at 9:48:35
In reply to One bad thing, One good, posted by Snoozin on June 25, 2004, at 9:27:30
well well well snoozin susan
seems like we are both on the same page with the workplace flirting ;-)
so much fun isn't it?
puts a little spring in your step and life in your day!
gives you a reason to get up and look your best and do your hair in the morning!
and makes you sooooo busy that you don't have time for an old "friend" who treats you like a walking wallet (so sorry snoozin, must hurt)
smile and the whole world smiles with you girl. rock on with your fabulous self
Posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2004, at 10:23:23
In reply to workplace flirting!, posted by octopusprime on June 25, 2004, at 9:48:35
i need a bit of workplace flirting. i think i need a workplace first, though don't i?
snoozin soosin, workplace flirting is the best! i'm glad that you are having some fun at work now. just beware if it's your boss (though that may have some benefits too! liquid lunches on him! yahooo!).
now, about your friend. hmmm, i'm trying to think of a positve to this. and i really can't. i guess that maybe since you two lost contact, and she's probably been very busy trying to have a child, maybe it slipped her mind to inform you dear. is that a possibility? instead though, perhaps you can continue to be a wonderful friend to her by attending the party and lettign her know how much you miss her. i know i frequently 'neglect' my very close friends (once time my best friedn didn't hear form me for about 2 years straight) and it takes them saying 'get your head out of your rear and realize that we need to talk more often' before i actually do realize what i've been missing out on. perhaps you could call to congratulate her and strike up a conversation? maybe that'll bring the spark back.
but, i know it still hurts dear. maybe the way to heal that hurt is to try picking up whre you left off. obvioulsy you are still in her htoughts, but maybe you need to push a little to be in her thoughts a bit more often, as you both will benefit...
take care dear,kk
Posted by Snoozin on June 25, 2004, at 10:32:43
In reply to workplace flirting!, posted by octopusprime on June 25, 2004, at 9:48:35
Thanks! Yes, it makes going to work something to look forward to. I've had a *thing* for this guy for about a month. It was sooo nice to have him flirt back.! :-)
Posted by Snoozin on June 25, 2004, at 10:35:50
In reply to Re: workplace flirting!, posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2004, at 10:23:23
>>just beware if it's your boss (though that may have some benefits too! liquid lunches on him! yahooo!).
<<No boss. He works in an entirely different department, which is great.
>>perhaps you could call to congratulate her and strike up a conversation? maybe that'll bring the spark back.
<<That would be the mature thing to do. But I am the one who has done 95% of the contacting over the past 6 years.So here I am thinking she must want the friendship to be over. I need to let it go. We'll see, I'm still thinking about what to do.
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