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Posted by SAW on August 20, 2004, at 4:24:55
This is going to sound like self-pity (probably is) but I feel a little lonely and a little empty since responding well to med. It seems that now I'm more in control, I don't need as much love and concern as before. How absolutely self-indulgent of me!
Sabrina
Posted by Dinah on August 20, 2004, at 7:51:31
In reply to Cup half empty not half full, posted by SAW on August 20, 2004, at 4:24:55
It sounds perfectly normal to me. Any change, even good ones, involve both gaining and losing something. Let yourself grieve the things you are losing.
Then remember that everyone needs lots and lots of love and concern and find other ways to get your needs met. It isn't bad to need love. It isn't bad to need concern. There are just many ways to gain them.
What is your life situation? Who can you count on to be loving and caring? Maybe it will be a bit more mutual, but that can be sort of nice too. :)
Posted by SAW on August 20, 2004, at 8:09:05
In reply to Re: Cup half empty not half full » SAW, posted by Dinah on August 20, 2004, at 7:51:31
I have a wonderful husband and son who are trying so hard to understand me. We were so resistant to me starting on meds because of previous failures but knew eventually there wasn't really any other option. Now that I am responding well after about 2 weeks, I notice my husband doesn't ask me how I'm doing as much. It's as though I'm back on track and everythings fine. I know even though the med is doing it's thing, I will have to deal with the issues that spiralled me to Major Depressive Disorder and GAD in the first place and that though I am doing so much better and appear to be "better", I do still have a problem.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 20, 2004, at 8:34:26
In reply to Cup half empty not half full, posted by SAW on August 20, 2004, at 4:24:55
I know exactly where you're coming from. I had a long talk with my T about this yesterday. I am not on medication and have been in therapy for one year. Had much anxiety and depression when I began. Now, through new skills I am FINALLY putting to use to erase my irrational thinking, I find that when I DO talk myself out of anxiety causing thoughts and feel better about a certain situation, I begin to feel anxious all over again. It is such a strange feeling for me, not to be anxious all the time about the smallest things.
Part of this anxiety about feeling no anxiety (does that make sense) has to do with change. All change is hard, whether it's good or bad. And like you, my husband, now that I am doing so much better, doesn't ask much about therapy anymore or seem quite so "concerned." I miss this in a way. More attention for me. But I think it must have been awfully tiring for him to have to worry about my mental health all the time. I think now he's happier that he doesn't have to have a constant vigil looking out for any returned symptoms.
So, what you feel is perfectly normal. Change is hard.
Posted by fallingstar on August 20, 2004, at 19:05:07
In reply to Cup half empty not half full, posted by SAW on August 20, 2004, at 4:24:55
Hey there,
Next week once I get to the pharmacy I have to slowly up my celexa and buspar. Problem with me is I am tired all the time from a combo of multiple problems, but I am always feeling the need for love and support...but don't want to feel this way all the time. I guess you hit it on the nose as far as my being lonely. I live 2000 miles from everyone I know but my husband, and when he is not here it is so weird. Sometimes to be numb would be a blessing though, even though I don't want to lose all my emotions. Perhaps its just getting adjusted to the medicine that does this.
TTYL
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