![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 8 of 8. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:06
i'm at a point where it just seems like nothing means anything...it's depressing..all the things we strive for..to look good, to be noticed, to be smart, to do things well..they add up to nothing..they mean nothing..what is the point?
i'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't give a damn about me(he's a misogynist)..sometimes i just wish there was a way to have something real..maybe if i was in a relationship based on love i would feel differently..but is that even possible..it seems like superficial appearances or personality or whatever get in the way of true, authentic love..it's not real..and then if you do have true, authentic love, would it just be boring? so you can't win..i don't know..i'm just not feeling that great about life right now..
i have no family anymore so i can't remember how meaningful that is..if at all..this post may seem strange to some of you..i'm unfortunately in a strange place right now..any responses at all appreciated..:)maybe i'm just depressed, but i doubt it..it's hard living with eyes wide open...amy:)
Posted by Violet4EVR on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:07
In reply to feels like nothing means anything..., posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 0:09:02
Hey Hun,
I'm sad to hear of your troubles......
What is going on w/ your boyfriend? Is he giving you the emotional support you need?
What happend with your family?????
Just to give you hope......falling in love is possible and beautiful.....I'm sure you will find someone who is pefect for you.
Take care,
Violet
Posted by partlycloudy on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:07
In reply to feels like nothing means anything..., posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 0:09:02
I'm going to tell you something that I am trying hard to practice myself. When we stop defining ourselves by how others feel about us, that's when the meaning of our lives becomes clear. When we concentrate on ourselves, our emotions and energy, take care of ourselves physically and medicinally, the positive energy we create is what draws others to us. Like a moth to a flame. It's all about accepting ourselves, taking care of ourselves, loving ourselves, and allowing others to love us. The seeking for love and acceptance is internal, and the effect is external.
I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now. I'm coming out of a rough few weeks myself. Not sure if it's meds, hormones, or life circumstances. When you are pulled down and under like that, it's very difficult to see what best for ourselves.
Please take care and tell us how you are doing this week.
pc
Posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:08
In reply to Feel Better, posted by Violet4EVR on September 13, 2004, at 1:03:40
> Hey Hun,
>
> I'm sad to hear of your troubles......
>
> What is going on w/ your boyfriend? Is he giving you the emotional support you need?
>
> What happend with your family?????
>
> Just to give you hope......falling in love is possible and beautiful.....I'm sure you will find someone who is pefect for you.
>
> Take care,
> Violet
thanks, violet,:)
i really appreciate it:)..i'm so moody lately..i think those particular feelings that i posted have passed..but,no, my bf doesn't give me any emotional support. it seems like he just wants to control and dominate me, not care about me. i don't think he knows how to love..he has been left by 4 previous girlfriends, so i just don't think i could do that to him (leave)..plus he's trying to overcome his drug addictions right now..as far as my family goes, my father cut himself off from me emotionally after my parents divorced when i was 9, which was absolutely devastating to me for several years afterwards, but now i've gotten past that..and i recently cut off contact from my mother for good, as she is abusive. my brother died when i was 16. he was my only family, and the whole world to me.thanks for what you wrote about falling in love..i do know it's possible..i guess the whole concept of love to me is colored by my current situation..
thanks again for writing and for your concern..
take care:),
amy
Posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:09
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » alesta, posted by partlycloudy on September 13, 2004, at 6:54:37
hi, pc:),
i just accidentally deleted my reply to you. darn! oh well..thanks for your kind words..:) yes, what you wrote is so true..thanx for your advice..i normally have a grasp of this, but the kind of weekend i had kind of threw me off a bit..time to recenter:)..
thanks for your caring and concern...i know, it *has* been a rough few weeks, lol. i keep waiting for the ebb in the tide..i hope it comes soon for the both of us..:)
you take care, too, pc. thanks again for your support:)!
all the best:),
amy
Posted by nicolas on September 13, 2004, at 15:51:10
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » partlycloudy, posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 13:59:21
Hello,
When my life feels meaningless I can only orrient myself toward God, turn toward God. This means silence and tears and patience. I pray and I write, and slowly I find new meaning in my life.
It is hard when we feel trapped in the life we are leading but only by turning inward and praying for compassion, radiating from our heart and reflected onto ourselves, only by loving the world through our suffering can we find peace.
I will pray for you.
Posted by AuntieMel on September 13, 2004, at 16:31:11
In reply to Re: Feel Better » Violet4EVR, posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 13:23:32
Tough call on the boyfriend front.
On one hand, if four other girlfriends have left him, that should tell you something about *him* and not you.
On the other hand, while people usually don't change, this might not be true in his case. Depending on where he is as far as giving up drugs, it may be that you are talking to the drugs, not him. Addiction is notorious for making folks selfish. If he does actually start recovery he *is* likely to change for the better.
Good luck
Posted by alesta on September 13, 2004, at 16:55:31
In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything..., posted by nicolas on September 13, 2004, at 15:36:44
thank you so, so much for praying for me, nicholas!! it means a lot. :) and i appreciate your imparting your wisdom to me.:)
<Tough call on the boyfriend front.<On one hand, if four other girlfriends have left him, that should tell you something about *him* and not you.
<On the other hand, while people usually don't change, this might not be true in his case. Depending on where he is as far as giving up drugs, it may be that you are talking to the drugs, not him. Addiction is notorious for making folks selfish. If he does actually start recovery he *is* likely to change for the better.
yes, good point..now if he would just work on recovery...
<Good luck
thanks, A.M., i need it.:):)
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.