Psycho-Babble Social Thread 391227

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Re: feels like nothing means anything... » alesta

Posted by 4WD on September 15, 2004, at 18:54:12

In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » 4WD, posted by alesta on September 14, 2004, at 21:01:41

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> hi, marsha:),
> you are so sweet, and a good friend to me on pb.:)yes, i agree, i was thinking that, too, about the depression, after i wrote that post..you're absolutely right. the depression is not as bad as it was that day..the antidepressant is kicking in more now (i upped my dosage, too). i tend to start looking for external gratification when i'm depressed as a last resort..and it never satisfies...plus i'm not eating much at all and that can't be helping..there's so much going on right now..i just broke up with my bf after a particularly cruel streak on his part. and i spent hours comforting him previous to that..not that he has ever cared when i'm upset. he is threatening violence and i have just got to get out..but i have no plan whatsoever and no means to leave..i have to find another job that won't involve contact with him..a daunting task..i hope those prayers come in handy, or i am really SOL. this could be the beginning or the end for me. life feels really impossible right now.
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> thank you for your prayers and for thinking of me.
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> Love,:)
> Amy
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Hi Amy,

The best thing that ever happened to me was when my first husband and I decided to get a divorce. It sure didn't feel like it at the time. I was terrified and had no idea how I was going to take care of myself. I never had had to.

I had just started graduate school when we broke up. I had to move to a different town, transfer my classes, find an apartment and a way to support myself (and my eating disorder) and learn to take care of myself. Trust me. When you HAVE to do it, you can.

I was terrified. But things just fell into place. It's amazing how stuff like that works out.

You will be better off without a cruel boyfriend. You have probably been devoting so much of your energies to him that you have none left for yourself. And as bad as he is, I bet he is a sort of "safety net" for you. Like you have him to fall back on if things are hard. But I truly believe that if you believe in yourself, you can take care of yourself way better than he ever could.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I believe you are stronger than you know. If you are in a position where you have to swim or drown, I think you would be one of the ones who would swim. I believe in you.

I won't be posting again for several days after tonight because there is a hurricane headed directly for my house (near Mobile, AL). I just wanted to tell you that so you wouldn't wonder where I had disappeared to.

God has answered so many of my prayers. He will help you too.

Love,
Marsha

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Help » 4WD

Posted by iris2 on September 16, 2004, at 13:27:46

In reply to Re: feels like nothing means anything... » alesta, posted by 4WD on September 14, 2004, at 21:20:13

I am still so hung up on a guy I dated three years ago. I did not date anyone for about four years before that because I had lived with a sociopath and I had no taste for men after that horrible experience. I am really lonely now. I do not go out much. I started going to church again. I do not work. What I am saying is there is not a lot of opportunity to meet anyone in my life. Men or women. I feel like I would not mind dating now. One man I was doing things with came onto me a bit but I was very uncomfortable. He is about 25 years older than me and I never thought of him in that way. I thought we were just good friends. This is happening again with someone he introduced me to. I made it very clear from the onset that I was only looking for a friend. Which is not entirely true but in this case it was. I think he is looking for more. I hate this. Is it not possible for a man and a woman to be friends only?

How can I find someone in my situation to date? Any ideas?

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