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Posted by saw on September 21, 2004, at 5:03:37
My husband did not want me to go out of town with him this weekend for a sporting committment because he became "sick and tired" of my behaviour. Oh, it's a long story. That was last Thursday. Well, I grovelled a bit because the weekend was important to me.
The weekend started with a tensish attitude but it was manageable. On to the airplane and WHAMMO - panic attack. It happened the last time I flew but thought it was because of the rush to the airport. I was dizzy, hyperventilating, shaking, clawing and then crying. And trying to do all of this without anyone noticing. Poor H extremely embarrassed but very sweet. The whole thing left me with a whopper of a headache.
The weekend proceeded with caution. I was very aware of the fact that H did not want me there. It screamed from his body language. He was just so cold. I so missed his casual touches every now and then. Especially as I was supporting him at his sport. Things got a bit sour at a party on Friday night, but I backed off. Saturday night, again a bit of tension. Sunday night at the prize giving - a total disaster. I was asking him a question, but not getting it, and so I persisted. He eventually swore and said I was asking stupid questions. I was so hurt. I already feel fat and ugly, and now I'm stupid too. He ignored me totally. I was so upset that I slipped off to the car and stayed there for the remainder of the evening. I cried solidly for more than an hour. All our friends noticed.
We flew back yesterday morning and the panic attack started again. I managed to keep it under control. It is not a fear of flying that brings the attack on. I felt extremely claustrophobic. My entire bubble space was invaded. Oh, and ironically, H was extremely affectionate and supportive on the flight back.
So here I am, back home and feeling terrified. H has been okay but finally mentioned what I HAVE BEEN DREADING that being on meds and drinking, changes my personality completely. I dodged and evaded the issue. I am terrified! And he is trying to help. Yesterday, he even bought sparring gloves and a knee bag to teach me kickboxing. A way to let my anger out!
I say again, I am terrified.
Sabrina
Posted by partlycloudy on September 21, 2004, at 7:25:09
In reply to I survived the weekend, posted by saw on September 21, 2004, at 5:03:37
Sabrina, I should think that your anxiety and panic should be addressed by your doctor, in my opinion. The influence our meds has on how our body responds to alcohol is startling and scary. Sorry you have such a time of it this weekend. Have you seen that there is a new board here called Relationships? It might help with some of the issues you and your H are having. I'm sure I'll see you there.
take good care,
pc
Posted by saw on September 21, 2004, at 7:31:07
In reply to Re: I survived the weekend » saw, posted by partlycloudy on September 21, 2004, at 7:25:09
My doc said that she does not prescribe tranquilizers and that the effexor I'm on would be sufficient. She is aware of my anxiety. I've just noticed that although it is not as severe as before, it IS still there and I'm living with it everyday. I'll be seeing her in a couple of weeks and will advise her again.
And have already pounced on the new board.
Sabrina
Posted by partlycloudy on September 21, 2004, at 8:00:04
In reply to Re: I survived the weekend » partlycloudy, posted by saw on September 21, 2004, at 7:31:07
I'm glad you found the new board. I think it's a good addition to bable.
There are many physicians who are loathe to prescribe meds for panic and anxiety as so many of the treatments are of the type that can be addictive. Perhaps a second opinion is in order? I know how paralysing panic and anxiety are, and for me, effexor was not effective for anxiety until I had been on it for several months.
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