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Posted by woolav on April 5, 2005, at 11:20:25
Hello All, I got married 8 months ago, about 1 1/2 yr after I left and divorced my first husband. Anyway, my new man treats me well and I love him very much. But recently, it seems ive gone mad. I take meds, but have for a while now and havent acted crazy. This is what I did: started chatting w/ men on yahoo and even thought about meeting them. I am happy with my husband, but just wanted the attn that the guys were giving me on the internet (like saying I was hot and they wanted me..etc) Its like I needed to know if i was still attractive to other men. Anyway, hubby found out and is very upset. And I cant explain my reasoning to a sane person. Whats wrong w/ me?
S
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 5, 2005, at 11:31:38
In reply to why would i behave this way?????, posted by woolav on April 5, 2005, at 11:20:25
i would rather babble mail you ?
would that be ok?
jyl
Posted by woolav on April 5, 2005, at 11:37:02
In reply to Re: why would i behave this way?????, posted by justyourlaugh on April 5, 2005, at 11:31:38
what do u mean? where would i go for that?
thanks
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 5, 2005, at 12:14:58
In reply to Re: why would i behave this way?????, posted by woolav on April 5, 2005, at 11:37:02
add aol dot com to justyourlaugh ..i will email you back..sorry i do not feel comfortable "babbling" about such matters..the aliens will tell their leader!
j
Posted by Spriggy on April 5, 2005, at 12:22:18
In reply to Re: why would i behave this way?????, posted by justyourlaugh on April 5, 2005, at 12:14:58
Is it possible that it's that "new, fuzzy," feeling you are attracted to and once you settle into the routine of marriage, you don't like the "sameness?"
I would encourage you to search DEEP as to why you do this becuase I would hate to see you ruin your marriage, especially since you have such a good man that loves you.
I think EVERY woman likes to feel attractive and know she is pretty/wanted/sexy.. That is normal but when we go outside of the marriage looking for it, it leads to trouble.
Contentment really is a beautiful place to be. It's sometimes hard to find (trust me, I know!) but once you get there, you would never want to leave it.
At least you are searching for answers as to why you have done this and hopefully now healing can begin.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 5, 2005, at 12:58:38
In reply to Re: why would i behave this way?????, posted by Spriggy on April 5, 2005, at 12:22:18
I think we all need that affirmation from time to time. It's born from insecurity and a feeling of being unloveable.
It was a mistake to act on it, but I understand the need.
Posted by woolav on April 5, 2005, at 18:52:28
In reply to Re: why would i behave this way?????, posted by justyourlaugh on April 5, 2005, at 12:14:58
Ive decided the best thing for me is to see a clinical psychologist. My pdoc is basically just a med giver, so she doesnt help at all. What I need help figuring out what my real problems are. I made an appt for next week. I'll let you all know how it goes. (never been to one before) But i realize i have insecurity issues and many other problems......
S
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