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Posted by happyflower on July 30, 2005, at 18:36:21
What signs or feelings do you have that know someone is special like a soul mate or meeting them was meant to be. Any stories?
Posted by Susan47 on August 1, 2005, at 23:46:09
In reply to What is a soul mate to you?, posted by happyflower on July 30, 2005, at 18:36:21
I met a man once, and I felt very close to him;loving him felt like coming home to a deep part of my soul and although I never really got to know him intimately, that was the nearest feeling I've had to a soul mate. Maybe someday I'll feel that way about someone else and actually have a reciprocal experience, and if it were to last and be loving, I can believe a soul mate exists, perhaps ... but have you had that experience? Do you have a soulmate, are you with that person? If you're with a soulmate, what does it mean? To me I think it just feels like you're meant to be together, there's enough that's familiar in the other person to make you feel safe and cared about, and you can give of yourself endlessly and not mind, in fact, do it gladly ...
Posted by JenStar on August 1, 2005, at 23:51:04
In reply to What is a soul mate to you?, posted by happyflower on July 30, 2005, at 18:36:21
good question, although I'm not sure I have an answer!
I don't really know what it takes - I think it's a combination of instant attraction AND a lifetime of getting to know each other and growing together. Sometimes couples start out fresh and green; they know that they LIKE each other but it's only after some time that they really "groove" together and become like a single entity in some ways.
I used to think that there was only one special soul mate out there for everyone. I'm not sure I believe that anymore. I think lots of people would "work" as a soul mate for each of us, as long as you have the love and put in the work. But you have to choose one and stick with one and let all the others fall to the wayside.
But once you truly have a soul mate...if you lose that person, I'm not sure you can develop it again quickly or easily. It's too painful.
What do you think?
J
Posted by happyflower on August 2, 2005, at 9:33:04
In reply to Re: What is a soul mate to you? » happyflower, posted by JenStar on August 1, 2005, at 23:51:04
I think there is always "signs" that you were meant to be together. Being in the same place at the same time accidentally. You keep running into this person unexpectetly. I also think it is a special feeling that I can't explain. I have felt this with only 3 people in my life, 2 aren't no longer living (but I still feel them) and one is alive but not my DH. Very hard to have a feeling for someone who isn't my husband. What this means, I don't know .
Posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2005, at 19:16:20
In reply to Re: What is a soul mate to you?, posted by happyflower on August 2, 2005, at 9:33:04
What's awful is not having this feeling about someone, and knowing that they're developing it or have it for you. So then I'm thinking, hmm, maybe that's just attraction taken to the extreme which releases all these endorphins and gives us the feeling it's something more than it is, we humans being the questing type, you know, enquiring spiritually which I wonder if any other mammal has the capability to be spiritual..no of course not, that's human, right? anyway... maybe it's not a soulmate reality, just a soulmate concept sparked by endorphins.. or if you're the spiritual type it would be soulmate. Maybe that's why sometimes using the word soulmate seems right and others not. That's another of life's mysteries I'll never know the answer to.. unless I have time, at death. I'm expecting the act of death to give me a lot of insight .. maybe it will never happen, this insight.. but death will, it will certainly happen. Damn, I wish there was a pill for that.
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