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Posted by Deneb on September 26, 2005, at 21:14:21
People, I don't think I will be able to handle tragedy. I think I will lose my mind and die.
If one day my family died, I don't think I will survive. I think I will lose it.
I'm just scared that this will happen and I won't be able to handle it. If my family dies, can someone help me get help or something? I just know I will go insane if it happens. :-(
Deneb
Posted by Sarah T. on September 26, 2005, at 21:41:08
In reply to Don't think I can handle tragedy *poss. trigger*, posted by Deneb on September 26, 2005, at 21:14:21
Hi Deneb,
I can understand your fears. Has something happened recently that is causing you to be particularly afraid right now?
I know this is going to sound trite, but learning to cope with loss and death is part of life. I have lost both my mother and father, and, yes, both losses were (and, in some ways, still are) the most difficult, painful experiences of my life, but somehow I have survived. I believe that, after you have found a therapist with whom you feel comfortable, and after you've worked with that doctor for a while, you will become more confident in yourself and in your ability to endure the pain of loss. You will also learn to trust more people, and you will be able to form close friendships with people outside of your family. Eventually, you will build a support system outside of your family of origin, and you will probably have your own family some day. While there will never be anyone like your mother and father, the other people you love and who love you will be just as important in a different way, and they will be able to help soften some of life's blows.
Unfortunately, there is really no way to avoid loss and the pain it causes, but as you change, you will find that you can and you will survive.
Posted by JenStar on September 26, 2005, at 23:33:44
In reply to Don't think I can handle tragedy *poss. trigger*, posted by Deneb on September 26, 2005, at 21:14:21
I feel the same way about my family. I feel that if anything happened, I would completely fall apart, fly apart, go insane.
BUT...I like living...and I want to keep living. So my only preventive measure is to surround myself with a good, strong network of extended family and close friends. If anything horrible DID happen, there are people I could rely on. It wouldn't make it OK, but it would make things perhaps more bearable.
do you have a support network of extended family and friends? I think that the more roots you have, the less terrified of loss you may feel. Just a thought...
JenStar
Posted by crazy teresa on September 28, 2005, at 13:03:41
In reply to Don't think I can handle tragedy *poss. trigger*, posted by Deneb on September 26, 2005, at 21:14:21
Why do you think about such things? You are creating stress for yourself. When tragedy strikes, you deal. No choice.
Until it does happen, deal with what is going on in your life today. It will make today much easier. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
crazy t
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