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Posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
How do I finally say goodbye to this place and walk away?
It no longer fills a need in my life, and that leaves me feeling sad.. every time I come here.
This place has lost so much of what I have always loved about it.. the tight community feeling, the thankfulness of having found somewhere, and the pleasure that knowing a random man (Dr Bob) out in the ether, had created this for us.
Now, its a constant stream of arguing & bitching.. complaining about the rules (even though this is Dr Bobs and no one else, and isn't governed by "US Law", or any other countries laws).. Even alot of the undrstanding has gone. It just feels like "points of principle" matter alot more than the feelings of fellow posters, and that the "great" American concept of Freedom of Speech should over ride everything else.
Everytime I visit these days I end up walking away disheartened.. Disgusted alot of the time.. Very very rarely by Dr Bobs actions, but 99% of the time its by the posters.
I wish it was like it was 5 years ago here, but I know thats never going to happen. (but then, I wish the entire internet was like it was 5 - 15 years ago) We can't turn back time.
So, I guess this is something of a goodbye.
I hope it is anyway
Posted by snapper on June 24, 2006, at 4:17:59
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
> How do I finally say goodbye to this place and walk away?
>
> It no longer fills a need in my life, and that leaves me feeling sad.. every time I come here.
>
> This place has lost so much of what I have always loved about it.. the tight community feeling, the thankfulness of having found somewhere, and the pleasure that knowing a random man (Dr Bob) out in the ether, had created this for us.
>
> Now, its a constant stream of arguing & bitching.. complaining about the rules (even though this is Dr Bobs and no one else, and isn't governed by "US Law", or any other countries laws).. Even alot of the undrstanding has gone. It just feels like "points of principle" matter alot more than the feelings of fellow posters, and that the "great" American concept of Freedom of Speech should over ride everything else.
>
> Everytime I visit these days I end up walking away disheartened.. Disgusted alot of the time.. Very very rarely by Dr Bobs actions, but 99% of the time its by the posters.
>
> I wish it was like it was 5 years ago here, but I know thats never going to happen. (but then, I wish the entire internet was like it was 5 - 15 years ago) We can't turn back time.
>
> So, I guess this is something of a goodbye.
>
> I hope it is anywayNikkiT2, I am sad and sorry to see you abruptly leave for what ever reason. No One ever said this place was "perfect..." Please consider re-thinking you exit. Things can and do get better!
Snappper
Posted by Glydin on June 24, 2006, at 6:17:27
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I am going through the same thing, Nikki.
Been here over four years. I don't know how quit either. It would seem simple.... sigh. It has become more of a habit I can't seem to break. I will give myself limits, sometimes sticking to them for periods of time BUT never totally sticking to them - obviously. I miss some of the old posters who are no longer here. I miss how this place used to make me feel - how I felt I belonged, how I felt it was a warm distraction, an enjoyable participation - maybe, I suffer from the "Good 'ole Days" that look better in hindsight. I know I don't feel that warm runny feeling much anymore.
Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 7:59:10
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I do understand.
Certainly the greatest frequency of *my* pain or hurt feelings here at Babble isn't from Dr. Bob. And I was wondering just the other day if it were fair to my family to get so upset here, and indirectly let Babble affect their lives.
I think there's a terrific bunch of Babblers here at the moment. I think if you hang out at Admin, you see the pain more than if you go to Psychology, for example. Or Social. Not due to the nature of the posters, but due to the nature of Admin. Each board seems to have a slightly different feel.
I'm sorry Babble isn't meeting your needs any more. I hope you've found someplace else that does meet your needs.
I'll miss you Nikki. You've contributed so much to the boards. I often refer people to you or to search for your archived posts who are upset with their BPD diagnosis, because you understand so much about advocating for those with BPD. It was a real asset here, and I'm sure it's a real asset otherwise.
If you ever feel differently, or need Babble for any reason, the boards will be lucky to have you back.
Posted by Phil on June 24, 2006, at 8:05:29
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I would miss you so much. Just for you, Nikki...
{{{{{{{{{Nikki}}}}}}}} : )
OTOH, I know how you feel.
Phil
Posted by TofuEmmy on June 24, 2006, at 11:31:26
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
It wasn't all that long ago, but I miss the days of Karen Kay et al. So much clever banter, and generous support. It was then that I met GG, Alldone and other wonderful women. Good memories saved.
Em
Posted by Bobby on June 24, 2006, at 11:48:47
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I wish was like it was too, but I would miss your posts greatly. What will my wife read next Christmas?
Posted by Tabitha on June 24, 2006, at 11:49:19
In reply to Re: Letting go.., posted by TofuEmmy on June 24, 2006, at 11:31:26
OK, I'll wax nostalgic too. I remember when I was new and Beardedlady and Shar and Phil were the babble royalty (to me anyway). And I got my first internet crush on Slinky who went by a couple different names then. I was in awe of Dinah's kindness and sensitivity, and Gabbi's sharp wit and vulnerability, and kidA's creativity, and Trouble's rebel-girl attitude, and Bobby's corny jokes, and man, I can't believe how many names I've forgotten already, but there were many others I watched or posted to or didn't post to, but it felt like a whole wonderful world of characters. By the Karen Kay days that Emmy enjoyed so much, I was already feeling a bit less involved. Now I mostly lurk, but can't quite stop coming here either.
Posted by Phillipa on June 24, 2006, at 13:56:20
In reply to Re: Letting go.., posted by Tabitha on June 24, 2006, at 11:49:19
It's true people come and go but wow!!!! I just got a taste of what some of the other sites are like. So I am hanging around here for quite a while. The others seemed horrible. Love Phillipa ps please rethink your decision
Posted by gardenergirl on June 24, 2006, at 15:15:55
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
Nikki,
I don't really know what to say. I'm sad.Whether staying or going, I'll always wish you the best.
gg
Posted by TofuEmmy on June 24, 2006, at 15:41:48
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I realized my post was sadly self-absorbed. I'm a social oaf.
Do whatever is healthiest for you. If you need to leave...maybe stop by occasionally? That's what I have determined is best for me. Lordy, there I go again.
Take care, and I hope you to see you around somewhere out here!
Em
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 24, 2006, at 17:58:33
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
Nikki,
I am sorry if I have done anything to disappoint you or make you miserable. I wish you well I really do.
MidnightBlue
Posted by All Done on June 25, 2006, at 1:50:56
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
I'm sorry this hasn't been the place you want or need, Nikki.
FWIW, I wish you would stay (and maybe avoid admin).
Laurie
Posted by wildcardII on June 25, 2006, at 18:39:40
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
~i now just drop in and see things that are so *different* that i leave...you're not alone (((NikkiT2)))
Posted by Kath on June 29, 2006, at 17:18:12
In reply to Letting go.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 24, 2006, at 3:23:05
Hi Nikki
I've been coming here & trying to get to know people & fit in. It's true it doesn't 'feel' like it used to. And PB 2000 seems almost dead, which makes me sad.
I mostly come to Social & always skim for your name.
I hope everything works out for you Nik. You are a very special person.
luv, Kath
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