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Posted by rainbutterfly on September 7, 2006, at 13:45:40
I feel like such a loser. We had a misunderstanding, not earth shattering stuff really, but I am a sensitive wimp. Or maybe it was earth shattering and I am "sicker" than I think :o( What the hell I am such a .... insert favourite term of abuse.
They blame themselves and not me but have disappeared. I know I have to be patient and not screw up even more.
stupid pathetic butterfly :o(
Posted by rainbutterfly on September 7, 2006, at 15:28:24
In reply to hurt a friend, posted by rainbutterfly on September 7, 2006, at 13:45:40
ick.... now I feel even more of a "loser".... impatient too. I am sure they will come around, unlike years ago I don't screw up too badly..............
Posted by Deneb on September 7, 2006, at 19:00:35
In reply to hurt a friend, posted by rainbutterfly on September 7, 2006, at 13:45:40
Everyone has misunderstandings, don't be so hard on yourself.
Labelling yourself isn't going to solve anything and no one deserves those labels.
You are NOT stupid or pathetic.
Deneb*
Posted by TexasChic on September 7, 2006, at 20:29:22
In reply to Re: hurt a friend » rainbutterfly, posted by Deneb on September 7, 2006, at 19:00:35
What Deneb said.
Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and it feels like you're being mean. But really you're just being NORMAL! I feel like that all the time. Was what you said deserved? How would the other person have acted if you behaved like them? I find this question to be a good gauge. Usually my behaivior is much more polite than their's would have ever been in the same situation.
-T
Posted by finelinebob on September 7, 2006, at 22:36:59
In reply to Re: hurt a friend, posted by TexasChic on September 7, 2006, at 20:29:22
My grandma used to say, "When you point your finger at someone, there are three pointing back at you."
Sounds like you're in the "3 pointing back at U" stage.
Ever consider that your friend might be in the same place? When you got 2 people too scared to say "I'm sorry" first because you think the other person is too mad, sometimes nothing ever gets said again.
So just go and say you're sorry.
(... and I'm not sure my grandma ever said that, but it sounds better that way....)
Posted by rainbutterfly on September 8, 2006, at 10:14:49
In reply to hurt a friend, posted by rainbutterfly on September 7, 2006, at 13:45:40
Thanks everyone for the great feedback. We did both say sorry in fact. I think it will be ok, I will contact them again in a few days......
I know exactly what you mean though finelinebob, been there too, and won't go into that, still smarting from that one. Stinks when a sincere apology is wrongly judged as insincere or some other nasty term........ppppffffttttt. And yeah some people are too mad to EVER accept an apology it seems :o(
Posted by rainbutterfly on September 8, 2006, at 10:23:49
In reply to Re: hurt a friend, posted by TexasChic on September 7, 2006, at 20:29:22
"Was what you said deserved"..... not totally cuz I was mixing up some old stuff and this person didn't deserve that..... no one does. But in general I am also more polite than some "friends" would have been in similar situations. Thanks!!
If you are reading this ))) ? ((( good thoughts to you, I hope you are ok.....contact me if you would like to.
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