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Posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
Complaining is a Social Cancer in our Lives, along with Griping, Grumbling, and Gossip...
Rod
PS: They are simply BAD Habits... Ever noticed you occasionally forget to do a bad habit??? That's how really important bad habits are... They aren't important, they just FEEL important in the presence of a craving... Sometimes I actually crave to be understood... My bad habit is to talk the topic to death... My craving to be understood outways common sense and the topic I am talking to death at the time... Tell me how talking something to death helps me... What ensures its presence on a list of bad habits is how my talking something to death, drives a wedge between myself and others, causing even more alienation and missunderstanding... Whoooops!!!
Rod
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2006, at 8:13:42
In reply to Complaining is a Cancer, posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
But is that a complaint against complaining?
Posted by rainbutterfly on September 14, 2006, at 9:17:28
In reply to Complaining is a Cancer, posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
I understand a lot of what you are saying. I've been there, and sometimes still am..... re "complaining"/"whining"/"insert other negative description". I try not to use those demeaning terms myself. Who am I to deem someone else in a particular way when I might myself have been there before... or even be there again at some time :o(
I like how you are able to "admit" something that might be perceived as a weakness in yourself, and not simply poke/push/project/force your own anger/"falings" onto others (chosen maybe because of past issues/abuse ie OLD stuff) :o(.... and so making the world a sadder, sicker place to "be" :o(
From another "work in progress".... kudos!
Posted by Tabitha on September 14, 2006, at 10:07:07
In reply to Re: Complaining is a Cancer, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2006, at 8:13:42
I'm not sure whether you were trying to be funny there, but you gave me a laugh :D
Posted by gardenergirl on September 14, 2006, at 13:01:23
In reply to Complaining is a Cancer, posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
> Complaining is a Social Cancer in our Lives, along with Griping, Grumbling, and Gossip...
Well, except when making a complaint is an assertive expression of a harm done, neglect, mistake, need, etc.
And when griping and grumbling in a safe place defuses strong emotion which could otherwise be spent harming someone.
And in order to keep tabloid magazines in business.
But otherwise.
Posted by Declan on September 14, 2006, at 14:13:40
In reply to Re: Complaining is » 64Bowtie, posted by gardenergirl on September 14, 2006, at 13:01:23
I'm sceptical about the whole culture of self assertion. I don't want to argue that people should endlessly and submissively put up with things they can't bear, but having said that there's something that really bugs me about people thinking they can satisfy their needs by rationally working out what they have a right to and asking for it, or whatever that assertiveness training stuff tells you to do. No idea why I feel like this. My mother was very unassertive (and very angry); you think I'd have learned something from her.
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2006, at 15:01:38
In reply to Re: Complaining is, posted by Declan on September 14, 2006, at 14:13:40
My therapist has a book on his bookshelf called "Shut Up, Quit Whining, and Get a Life". I told him perhaps he ought to display it in a less prominent position, as his clients might say, "Ok" and leave.
There are many different reasons to complain, or grumble, as gg said. I don't like to condemn an entire behavior.
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2006, at 15:02:20
In reply to Re: Complaining is, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2006, at 15:01:38
Oh well. I wasn't meaning to recommend it anyway.
Posted by Phillipa on September 14, 2006, at 15:03:27
In reply to Re: Complaining is, posted by Declan on September 14, 2006, at 14:13:40
Yup sometimes it can get out of hand. Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay on September 17, 2006, at 19:04:42
In reply to Complaining is a Cancer, posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
Posted by Phil on September 17, 2006, at 19:16:55
In reply to Re: Complaining is being Human (nm) » 64Bowtie, posted by Jay on September 17, 2006, at 19:04:42
Posted by Racer on September 17, 2006, at 21:18:07
In reply to Re: I have a complaint about this thread... (nm), posted by Phil on September 17, 2006, at 19:16:55
Phil, that post needed a warning label:
"Warning: Reading this post may cause you to have to clean your keyboard, because you'll spit sticky stuff all over it!"
That was very funny.
Posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 0:39:26
In reply to Complaining is a Cancer, posted by 64Bowtie on September 14, 2006, at 6:26:24
I don't have cancer (yet, and when I do I'm gonna complain heaps), but right now I'll take the opportunity to complain about my arthritis and my sciatica. Although these give me a pleasing (though small) feeling of vindication and may have spiritual uses, I hate them both, they hurt, and I don't know which one is worse.
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