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Posted by capricorn on November 29, 2006, at 17:15:36
It can often be difficult for people to grasp that i have cognitive problems.Unfortunately they latch onto the fact
that i am verbally articulate and are often sceptical and dismissive when i say that i have problems with thinking.
The worst aspect of this is when it is assumed that you are
being contrary or deliberately obtuse.My parents were very blase about how i did in school.Up to the age of 9.5 i did very well but got little in the way of praise but after that it was a slow downward curve.
Although i have got good verbal skills i've got much lower visuopatial skills and following on from that organisational skills .As the work got more advanced and visuospatial/organisational/critical thinking skills were needed my deficits in these
areas came into play and it was more difficult to academically bluff my way with good verbal skills.Even now i have problems with things that require step by step
thinking/organising/planning.
Unfortunately these kind of things were not picked up in the early 60's
to mid 70's as they would be now ,neither were the social interaction problems t h
at went with it.
It was both demoralising and depressing to watch pupils you had once outperformed academically sailing past you.One of the most frustrating effects
forum wise is the confusion i can experience when confronted by a long
and involved post and the difficulty in co ordinating a response.
I think that not enough attention is paid to cognitive problems especially with those who on cursory contact seem to be the kind of person
you would not suspect of having such problems.
Hopefully things are slowly beginning to change with regards
to the negative impact even seemingly minor cognitive problems can have on the individual.
l look forward to the day when there are effective medications to counter such problems.It is all too easy to feel ashamed because of such problems whilst seeking to cover it with bravado.
Posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2006, at 20:28:02
In reply to Cognitively speaking, posted by capricorn on November 29, 2006, at 17:15:36
And look what accomplishments your parents made. Do they expect you to do the same? Love Phillipa ps can stay here.
Posted by capricorn on November 29, 2006, at 20:54:59
In reply to Re: Cognitively speaking » capricorn, posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2006, at 20:28:02
> And look what accomplishments your parents made. Do they expect you to do the same? Love Phillipa ps can stay here.
My mother told me at the age of 8-9 i would never be as good as my father. At the same time she used to continually argue with him. If the AD breaks were periods of non arguing the tv programs were the periods of arguing.
I got very mixed messages.
I am proud of my father but he has either adopted a ostrich position over my problems ie only wants to hear good news or has been unsympathetic.I was once told by my mother
that when i was beginning to show overt problems
at the age of 16-17 she said 'i'm worried about Tim' and he replied rather flippantly 'Well of course he's going mad isn't he?'I don't know whether he did say this or my mother was playing games.
She was a heavy drinker/alcoholic for years and could be verbally nasty and occasionally
physically with it.When she found out my brother was hiv she phoned up in tears to me for over an hour and yet years later i heard from my brother that when he had told her she had called him a disgusting pervert and he deserved all he got.
Posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2006, at 21:20:57
In reply to Re: Cognitively speaking, posted by capricorn on November 29, 2006, at 20:54:59
Capricorn that's horrible. I feel for you. Love Phillipa
Posted by gardenergirl on November 29, 2006, at 23:46:23
In reply to Cognitively speaking, posted by capricorn on November 29, 2006, at 17:15:36
Hi capricorn,
Did you ever get your cognitive problems checked out? Some of what you describe sounds like ADHD. And you're right, cognitive problems, unless they were very severe, were not normally identified decades ago. And sometimes they don't show up right away if school is not challenging enough til you get older.Sounds like you also didn't have good support at home. I'm sorry for that.
I struggle with reading really long posts, too (though it doesn't stop me from writing my own really long posts). :) It's especially hard when there are no paragraph breaks. It depends on my mood, whether I'm fatigued, and whether I'm scattered or not how I do.
Anything that you've found helps you?
Take care,
gg
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