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Posted by your#1fan on December 1, 2007, at 1:08:12
I dont know, there has been a series of bad events happening to me lately. Bad things seem to be attached to me.
Im losing some friends on facebook. But know that i think, if they deleted me. For no reason, or maybe i said something, they arent really my friends.
But i believe if you say things are going to be ok, they will. So i am going to make more facebook friends....maybe that will help it. Be more optimisic! dont ever speak bad things over yourself, i have and they seem to gradually happen. Im scared...
Pray +---
Posted by caraher on December 1, 2007, at 9:26:59
In reply to I'm losing facebook friends, posted by your#1fan on December 1, 2007, at 1:08:12
The subject line reminds me of this Onion article:
http://www.theonion.com/content/news/myspace_outage_leaves_millions
I'm sorry you've had so many bad things happen. I hope you don't let what happens on Facebook make you get down on yourself. While it's possible to have good friends online I think it's also easier to slight others (intentionally or not) online. So I wish you luck in finding new Facebook friends, and even more luck finding friends away from the computer!
Posted by Phillipa on December 1, 2007, at 12:21:56
In reply to Re: I'm losing facebook friends, posted by caraher on December 1, 2007, at 9:26:59
I knew this computer thing unless work would lead to friendless people as human beings need human contact. Phillipa ps I've gotten agoraphobia with learning the internet.
Posted by your#1fan on December 2, 2007, at 0:20:40
In reply to Re: I'm losing facebook friends » caraher, posted by Phillipa on December 1, 2007, at 12:21:56
well its something i posted on my bullitin board and i removed it....
You have to know social skills well with people you know. Not always feel kinda like the outsider.
Thanks
fan
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2007, at 8:50:42
In reply to Re: I'm losing facebook friends, posted by your#1fan on December 2, 2007, at 0:20:40
I'm impressed. You were upset at what happened, but you figured out what was wrong and fixed it as best you could. I notice you've also recently responded to feedback about how people feel about not getting responses to their posts by trying to respond to each one individually.
I can identify with not understanding the social cues and feeling like an outsider. But there's only one way to learn. It seems like you're doing that.
Well, there is another way too. I've heard that there are classes that teach social skills. If you live in a big city or a university town, it might be possible to find classes like that. I'm not entirely sure how to go about finding them since I've been unsuccessful in my search. But I sure would like to try.
I also noticed the change from your first post to your second in the way you're talking to yourself about the event. My therapist always says stuff like there are two parts of what happen to you. There's the actual event, then there's what you say to yourself about the event. It just isn't all that useful to react to an event by remembering all the bad things that have happened or by beating ourselves up over what we've done. It works so much better when you did what you did in the end. You found out the reason and did what you could to correct it.
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