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Posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 6:02:52
Anyone have a theory on why a man would continually date CSA survivors? Why would this be attrative to a man? Any ideas?
Thank you.
Abbie
Posted by Kath on January 11, 2008, at 14:28:23
In reply to Men who date survivors **trigger**, posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 6:02:52
How would he know they were? I would think that he dates someone & then later learns that they are survivors.
Maybe there's something about him that attracts someone who's been through that. Maybe he feels 'safe'. Or if he isn't nice, maybe they sense that & think they don't deserve to be with someone good.
just thoughts, kath
PS - I find it hard to imagine that he'd have that personal of information from someone when they weren't even dating yet! It's not the type of thing that survivors I know would tell just anyone.
> Anyone have a theory on why a man would continually date CSA survivors? Why would this be attrative to a man? Any ideas?
>
> Thank you.
>
> Abbie
Posted by MissK on January 11, 2008, at 18:08:12
In reply to Men who date survivors **trigger**, posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 6:02:52
Well, we all put out certain auras and energy - and we tend to attract or be attracted to certain auras and energies.
I saw the movie Sleepless in Seattle on re-run recently and in it, the brother of the main female character (Meg Ryan) mentions that attraction between people occurs on a subconscious level, two neurosis finding a compatible neurosis. lol.
Laughing aside, it does occur at a subconscious level - oftentimes we are attracted to persons that we identify with like parents or siblings with the idea of finding a person that can 'fix' (or, arguably to fix) what we did not get from said person we identify with.
Posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 18:54:35
In reply to Re: Men who date survivors **trigger** » AbbieNormal, posted by Kath on January 11, 2008, at 14:28:23
He meets them online at places where survivors might hang out. He makes friends, calls, meets them, etc. It's just wierd to me that it's always CSA survivors. Seems to be an odd preoccupation, ya know?
Yeah, maybe it's the, "I need to save them" complex. I think too negatively & twisted.
Abbie
Posted by MissK on January 11, 2008, at 20:57:51
In reply to Re: Men who date survivors **trigger**, posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 18:54:35
>He meets them online at places where survivors might hang out. He makes friends, calls, meets them, etc. It's just wierd to me that it's always CSA survivors. Seems to be an odd preoccupation, ya know?
Is this a friend of yours? I didn't realize he purposely seeks them out. Does he have some CSA history himself?
>I think too negatively & twisted.
Well, caution is always good. Some do look to take advantage of the vulnerability of others. I hope it isn't the case.
Posted by Kath on January 12, 2008, at 13:30:40
In reply to Re: Men who date survivors **trigger**, posted by AbbieNormal on January 11, 2008, at 18:54:35
OH!!! Well - THAT sounds uncomfortable to me for sure.
How come he tells you about it? You'd think he'd be embarrassed!
Kath
PS - nothing wrong with you telling him if you're not comfortable hearing anything more about it...or aren't okay with those type of details...after all, if there was a possibility of you meeting his GF & knowing that - I think that's a HUGE confidentiality betrayal by him!
> He meets them online at places where survivors might hang out. He makes friends, calls, meets them, etc. It's just wierd to me that it's always CSA survivors. Seems to be an odd preoccupation, ya know?
>
> Yeah, maybe it's the, "I need to save them" complex. I think too negatively & twisted.
>
> Abbie
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