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Posted by your#1fan on March 2, 2008, at 2:17:44
You know i was watching alot of movies about how the real world is.
Part, of me wants to get out and become a part. Another part is scared, but i need to get out there and do it.
My big brother got me out of alot my isolation, i admit when i was kid. If it wasnt for him, i would really be behind. At the same time, he's got a life, career, family now. Im a decade behind. But still good childhood memories from him where the best. Now i have to realize im an adult, and have to know its just memories.
There are so many ways you can percieve reality, though many ways of confusion (which in my teenage years i went through confusion much), confusion can be caused from being kept inside alot, and not knowing how relationships work (this apply's to me mostly) how to relate to people, anger, fear, anxiety attacks in response to not knowing how to deal with reality.
I do my best to hold it "together" but really the problem im scared of life in a whole, and i hide it. There are so many mind sets that you can be in, a mood, a perception that you see. Some people want there own way of life and create cults, but if you think about it they don't see all the aspects of the rules of life. You can create your own way of living, its called imaigne.
Life........its your best friend, its worst enemy, its your existance.
When getting into the real world, i've seen people fight for there right everything. Competetive, protective, of alot of things. I've seen you have to develop some kind of ego, to deal with other big ego's. There going to be conflicts your going to have to deal with, fights, maybe psychicall, i never really percived reality through a fierce way that i have now seen it. Im behind socially, i need to catch up!
You know, the saying that all "bad" stuff ends in high school, it does not. It will last you your whole life....really. I've seen people in there 80's still judge people, if there not in the social norm. What is a social norm? acting nice.... i dont consider myself a social norm, but i act like im normal 90% of the time.
Well this is just fan's deep thoughts.
What do you think of it.
your#1fan
Posted by your#1fan on March 6, 2008, at 0:29:24
In reply to L-I-F-E, posted by your#1fan on March 2, 2008, at 2:17:44
HA! i was really tearing it up here, just bloggin. I think my deep thoughts are kinda not understandable to some....obviously.
oh well
im your#1fan
Posted by Kath on March 6, 2008, at 16:41:38
In reply to Re: darn, isnt it humliated when you have no show, posted by your#1fan on March 6, 2008, at 0:29:24
Sorry #1F.
Sometimes I just don't have the mental capability to read through & actually follow a longish post. Sometimes I do.
Sometimes I have what might be useful thoughts/feelings about it. Sometimes I don't.
I do care about you.
The one part I can comment on is:
>You know, the saying that all "bad" stuff ends in high school, it does not. It will last you your whole life....really. I've seen people in there 80's still judge people, if there not in the social norm. What is a social norm? acting nice.... i dont consider myself a social norm, but i act like im normal 90% of the time.
*******I have never heard the saying that all bad stuff ends in high school. I agree with you. I think that's a pretty strange thing for anyone to actually believe! Jeeeeeeez - wouldn't THAT be nice eh??
Lots of people act nice. Lots of people don't act nice! I just had a friend (who is very supportive & who I've told lots of my 'baggage' from my past) tell me today that given the way I 'seem' & 'behave', nobody would know that I was carrying around about 50 pounds of hurt!!
I don't know what 'the norm' is. I'm beginning to know that for me, comparing myself with others is very damaging. I want to try to stop doing it. I suspect that for you, comparing yourself to your brother might be quite damaging. I question that there's anything at all useful or good-for-you to be gained from comparing your life with your brother's life. I'm sorry you have pain about all that.
Sorry, that's about all I can say at this point.
Please try to not take it personally if people don't reply to a post. Sometimes people are really going through a lot & just aren't able to even read posts. Others might read them & just not know what to say, even though they might care about you as a person.
I send hugs, Kath
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