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Posted by TexasChic on June 13, 2008, at 20:20:26
This week I worked:
8AM-9PM Friday
6AM-8PM Monday
8-8 Tuesday
7-11PM Wednesday
8AM-7PM Thursday.I made our impossible deadline.
I never once complained.
Today I worked ahead on some follow up work that isn't due until next week. The two other girls in my position said screw it and went home at noon.
The thanks I get???
I got attitude for asking to go home at 4:30.
I explained that I was working on stuff that wasn't due for a week (I had long since finished the work that was due today). I told her I only had a couple of hours of work to go until I finished the task I was working on, but I was so tired I couldn't see straight, and had gotten three error messages in a row, so I would rather just wrap it up on Monday.
But no, I get a lecture on how the work doesn't stop (she said this three times in spite of the fact that I said, "I never thought that it did!), and that there will still be a ton of things to do Monday (let me just insert here that not an hour before I had tried to ask her what I would be working on next week and she blew me off saying she wouldn't know until she prepared it.)
She finally said (in response to my request to go home), in a sarcastic voice, "Its up to you." I said, "Ok, see you Monday". I'll probably pay for that, but I knew I was too tired to do my work accurately. I mean, I had already gotten 3 error messages in a row, it was obvious I wasn't making any headway.
There's more, but I'm just so tired. I swear I hate that woman. And it makes me sick to have that feeling in my heart. Its negative and drags me down. But I'm not sure I know how to let it go.
-T
On top of everything else she has come to work sick for the last couple of weeks and now I've got it!!!
Posted by Phillipa on June 13, 2008, at 23:39:46
In reply to The lovliness that is my life, posted by TexasChic on June 13, 2008, at 20:20:26
T on no that is intolerable how can you work those long hours? I'd fall on my face. Better get some sleep and are you still looking for another job? You will get sick with those long hours. Love Phillipa
Posted by llurpsienoodle on June 14, 2008, at 9:53:00
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on June 13, 2008, at 23:39:46
Tex, these hours are appalling. I agree with Phillipa- only a matter of time before you get sick (or homocidal?)
Well, eat well, and try to get some rest this weekend. You deserve a week off, but well... sounds like that's not likely.
-Ll
Posted by Angela2 on June 14, 2008, at 11:35:10
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life, posted by llurpsienoodle on June 14, 2008, at 9:53:00
:-O tc those are crazy hours. ((((TC)))) I agree with Phillipa and Llurpsie, r u looking for another job and hope you can get some rest this weekend
Posted by fayeroe on June 14, 2008, at 13:54:13
In reply to The lovliness that is my life, posted by TexasChic on June 13, 2008, at 20:20:26
TC, sometimes there are people in our lives that we will never be able to get along with and satisfy them.
I view it, sometimes :-), as their problem and since I can't fix them, I had better watch my back and try to take care of me first.
This woman sounds as if she needs to take my anger management class. Would you ask her to call me at 999-999-9999 and I will enroll her asap. I'm sure that the felons will welcome her and we'll have her in shape in now time. :-)
Seriously, I hope that, right now, you are either asleep or in a tub of bubbly, relaxing, fragrant and hot enough for you, water. Those hours scare me, for you.
Take care, xoxo Pat
Posted by TexasChic on June 15, 2008, at 8:56:09
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life » TexasChic, posted by fayeroe on June 14, 2008, at 13:54:13
Thanks everyone! I stayed in bed all day yesterday, now I'm trying to do some housework.
I try to remind myself this is her problem, not mine. But then she's the one who has the power to take away my job, which in my current situation would leave me screwed. Which means, I guess, I'm letting her have too much power over me. I've got to change that situation. I will continue job hunting, but I will also be sure to remind myself everyday that - I've done nothing wrong, and I don't deserve this treatment. It so easy to slip into self loathing mode when someone is constantly criticizing you.
I'm hanging in there.
-T
Posted by Dinah on June 15, 2008, at 10:02:34
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life, posted by TexasChic on June 15, 2008, at 8:56:09
I think if I were you, I'd be looking for a new job. And I hate my job and still stay! There's a huge difference to me between hating my job and being mistreated by my boss.
The boss I have most trouble with has taken to loudly berating a coworker. She's been there for ages and has family ties to another of my bosses, so I don't think she'll quit. But I sure would. It's hard to do my own work with him yelling at her like that and criticizing her. He doesn't do that with me thank heavens. Probably because he's afraid I'll cry.
I don't understand how, in a large company, someone who is so hard on others was allowed to be in a management position. Maybe it's naive of me, but it doesn't seem to be in the company's best interests.
Posted by TexasChic on June 16, 2008, at 20:13:37
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life » TexasChic, posted by Dinah on June 15, 2008, at 10:02:34
I've been reading up on it, and apparently its not unusual for females bullies to move up in the company. I mean, the fact of the matter is, my boss is highly intelligent. She can talk her way out of anything! Here's a link of one of the articles I was reading:
http://www.worktrauma.org/womanandgeneral/womens_issues.htmToday went okay, she was back to her Dr. Jeckle persona. But I was so tense all day it was terrible. We had this evaluation thing we have to do that is separate from our reviews. Its supposed to help you find ways to improve the areas you have problems with by taking classes and implementing procedures that will help (you have a whole bunch of alternatives to choose from). For the past two years mine has said that my strengths were multi tasking and accuracy, and my weakness verbal communication. Although I've improved in the area of verbal communication substantially over the years (I used to hardly talk at all!), I do know I still have a way to go to be a confident speaker (not a public speaker, just interacting in general). I'm WAY better at writing, believe me! But I've always been very proud of doing so well at multi tasking and accuracy because organization and time management is so difficult for me.
Well anyway, because this last set we had was so huge and crazy, naturally I made more errors. So this is what she focused on. Not how hard I worked, but typos and things like that. So of course, this time my weakness was listed as multi tasking and accuracy. That just burned me up! I couldn't even trust myself to respond to her. Just the injustice of the whole thing had me outraged!
Well, eventually I calmed down and realized the best way to handle this, what will make things easiest for ME in the long run, would be to go along with her. Besides, I figured anybody could benefit from extra training in those areas. So I sucked it up and found all these classes for me to take and procedures to implement in order to improve my accuracy and ability to multi task. And after I got past that, I realized... it was really no big deal! So I humor her! I know the truth and so does everyone else who works with me. Now I can't believe I almost lost it, and would have made things a thousand times worse by arguing and trying to defend myself.
That being said, I have to say one thing that has been weighing on my mind this is a reoccurring theme for me! I always have these problems no matter where I work, so I can't help but think I must be doing SOMETHING wrong. I have read though, that when being bullied in the work place, it tends to happen over and over again to a person because there is a certain personality that attracts bullies (and I have it, lucky me!). But I'm still going to keep an eye out for something I can change to prevent it from happening again.
Overall,I think the main I need to keep in mind is I can't let other people have so much control over me that I obsess about it constantly and make myself sick over it! Easier said than done, but still a good thing to keep in mind. Also, an older mantra of mine - I can't change the way other people act, only the way I react to them. That's a big one for me. I have to constantly remind myself of that.
-T
Posted by Midnightblue on June 16, 2008, at 23:42:18
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life, posted by TexasChic on June 16, 2008, at 20:13:37
WOW TC good insight! I was going to say just take those easy for you self improvement classes. You'll just come out looking even better!
MB
Posted by fayeroe on June 17, 2008, at 8:25:12
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life, posted by TexasChic on June 15, 2008, at 8:56:09
> Thanks everyone! I stayed in bed all day yesterday, now I'm trying to do some housework.
>
> I try to remind myself this is her problem, not mine. But then she's the one who has the power to take away my job, which in my current situation would leave me screwed. Which means, I guess, I'm letting her have too much power over me. I've got to change that situation. I will continue job hunting, but I will also be sure to remind myself everyday that - I've done nothing wrong, and I don't deserve this treatment. It so easy to slip into self loathing mode when someone is constantly criticizing you.
>
> I'm hanging in there.
>
> -TI really admire your take on the classes and the "hanging in there".
The one time that I had this problem, I started waking up "sick at my stomach" before my shift. Now that is not good for us. Dread really does a number and we just have to figure away around it. I finally got around her, but it was tough. But it worked out for me and I know you will either find another job or handle her!!!!
Pat
Posted by TexasChic on June 17, 2008, at 18:29:40
In reply to Re: The lovliness that is my life » TexasChic, posted by fayeroe on June 17, 2008, at 8:25:12
Writing things down here seems to help me figure things out.
I just got back from my pdoc and got some ADD meds. Since I have high blood pressure, I can't take any of the b*tchin stimulants that make you not hungry. I'm going to try Strattera, so we'll see what happens. It really blows me away now when I realize how much I fall into the category of ADD. There were so many things I was compensating for without knowing it. I guess I thought everybody had to carefully put their keys in a very specific place every evening in order to find them the next day. God I hope this helps!
-T
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