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Posted by Deneb on June 27, 2009, at 16:23:52
I've based my self worth on my academic achievements most of my life, but since my many failures I've been thinking my life is not worth living sometimes.
I think, what would have happened if I were a normal, hardworking person like my sister?
Perhaps I would be a professional right now, instead of unemployed and living with my parents.
Sigh. I've ruined my life.
I've ruined my grades through not studying and skipping exams. What will all this organic chem knowledge that I have be used for if I won't be going to grad school?
I feel hopeless.
Posted by Deneb on June 27, 2009, at 18:15:01
In reply to Help, I'm thinking I'm a loser again, posted by Deneb on June 27, 2009, at 16:23:52
I feel like just staying at home. I've also lost motivation to stick with Weight Watchers.
I think getting out might be good for me though. I think I need to normalize my sleep schedule.
I need to clean my room. I need to do things instead of sitting on the couch all day refreshing sites.
I feel down.
I need to look for a job.
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on June 27, 2009, at 23:50:56
In reply to I'm thinking of not volunteering, posted by Deneb on June 27, 2009, at 18:15:01
It's feeling safe, sometimes there is fear of, sometimes just staying somewhere, which in 2006-now, you call CAST AWAY! i mean i went to social's and parties, full of myself, then deeeflate! everyone was in collage!
I know what you mean, what you have to come to a point of is realization, that you are "here" and...tell you, or be aware that "I do this", i tell myself this, and eventually it pisses myself off, go out into public, say HI!, when really, ugh leave me alone, bad mood buddy....bye!
Talk about chicken, stuff people talk about, then blow out. No twitter here, bzzzz, man i was in the car the other day! bzzz bzzzz bzzz! here all these van's with the mom driving, and 4 kids in the back twitin' on twittie, i mean, is this gigapets's from 1997 again or what?
Anways, you know, I usally can have burts of idea's, right now i'm blunt, can you....ever "deeply" think about what to dream about, before you go to sleep? Sometimes your mind will, see what you really want, and the current things it's doing, it's all throught sub-counsious "state" of thinking your this way, and sub-counsiously act out on it. Dream's can change the sub, yet that's not the best, I jog, when i jog, i change who i am, not "mutate into a diffrent people", just knowing what, a vision of what can come, the subcounsious, get's thrilled, and act's out on it. Sometimes by getting to the dream you wanted to get to, and not know it, it is possible. It's the "sub-control" using it's acting to do what the "inner self" wants, in the heart. No one can give you, hand you, make you, do a impact, to influence yourself, in knowing how far "I" [example] have come, people say...."what in the he** happened to you, your not the same person." Yup, throw away, the past, yet rerember all of it, because it's like a book of life, memories to look back on, what changing point "I" made in life, what year, what was i like back then? and so on.
Deneb...visualize, what you want, think on it, over, not "to the point" out of reality, but it will "engrave" itself into the mind, sub, and eventaully come out in fashion, you orignally rerembered, or wanted.
take care...
rj
Posted by Kath on June 28, 2009, at 18:07:35
In reply to Re: I'm thinking of not volunteering, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on June 27, 2009, at 23:50:56
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> Deneb...visualize, what you want, think on it, over, not "to the point" out of reality, but it will "engrave" itself into the mind, sub, and eventaully come out in fashion, you orignally rerembered, or wanted.
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> take care...
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> rj~ ~ ~ Deneb - good advise. There's a good book called "The Law of Attraction" by Michael Losier. A doctor I go to recommended it.
It's a great book - tells you actually HOW to go about creating your future as you want it.
I've been saying an "affirmation" about my son's life for well over a year & a half....from a time when he was doing cocaine, living in a crappy situation, having no purpose in life & little interest in anything & generally not doing well at all.
Here's what I've been saying (even during all the times that I've been really upset about him):"Thank you for taking care of S, for providing for all his needs, for keeping him happy, healthy, capable, confident, competant. Thank you for helping him overcome his substance abuse, for helping him to be succesfully independent, for providing him with a good place to live, with a good roommate, for providing him with a nice girlfriend who is good for him & they both really like each other, for helping him go forward in his life in a positive, purposeful way. All is well."
So - I've been saying it as if it's already happening. At first NONE of it was happening. Actually that's not true. At first all that was happening out of the list was that he was receiving disability and had an excellent mental health team through Can Mental Health Association.
So here are the things that have gradually become reality of the affirmation:
He stopped using cocaine (for over a year now).
He has done various 'live' DJ gigs at clubs in Toronto & another city, doing the vinyl Drum & Bass & Dubstep 'mixing' that he loves.
He's learned to mix using "CDJ"'s (CD's instead of vinyl) & now incorporates that into his 'gigs'.
He has done online live radio shows, mixing.
He has cut back drastically on his use of Ketamine & ecstasy (street drugs) & doesn't use them to 'cope' with stress, but rather to 'party'.
He has cut back on the number of cigarettes he smokes.
He is eating more healthily.
He was the speaker at a CMHA info meeting, telling how schizophrenia has affected his life, & he's been asked to & agreed to do it again in the future.
He is living in a cute little 2-bedroom house & the first 'roommate' has not worked out, but another friend has surfaced to share with him (someone who's just finished school, is mature & responsible).
He has a part time job; his employers are pleased with him; he is really enjoying the job & his best friend works there also & they have a really good time joking around etc.
Every once in awhile he talks about eventually going to college.
He is keeping his house neat & tidy & is taking great pride in the fact that he's being responsible & mature.I'd say that's QUITE a lot of the affirmation that's come into reality. Who knows if all this would have happened anyway? I don't know, but I still keep saying it!
I've made the affirmation about him, because his in-shambles-life was causing me great distress & those were the things I wanted to happen.
In the book it explains that if we turn the radio dial to, say a classical music station, we'll get classical music. If we turn it to country music, we'll get country music. So the idea being put forward by the book is that if we think of what we do NOT like about ourselves or our life, we attract more of it, because we're putting our attention on it. If we think about what we WANT, we're putting our attention on THAT.
For me - a confirmed worrier, it's quite a challenge to focus on the positives that I want without giving thought energy to the worries that I DON'T want to happen. I do my very best & I at least include the things I DO want to happen every day in my conscious thoughts.
I believe it's worked for me! Worth a try, no?
luv, Kath
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