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Posted by Deneb on March 8, 2010, at 0:30:27
I'm so behind in life. I have no career, no family, no friends, no credentials, nothing.
I'm worse off than the teen who gets pregnant. At least she gets to be a mother and raises a child.
I'm worse off than the high school drop-out, who probably has way more experience in the workplace than I do.
I'm only slightly better off than the street addict.
I've wasted so many years.
I need to exercise 6 days a week again. I think the exercise helps my mood. I just feel like I want to die right now.
I guess it wasn't the Prozac after all, it was the exercise that was helping me.
Although, I was productive today until the sadness hit all of a sudden.
I feel so sad.
:(
Posted by jane d on March 8, 2010, at 7:59:53
In reply to Feeling sad all of a sudden, posted by Deneb on March 8, 2010, at 0:30:27
Deneb,
I think it's completely reasonable, even normal, to feel sad about all those things.And I think in a strange way it's even harder when you've started to feel better. At least I've found that I end up feeling guilty for grieving about these things because I think that I should be feeling grateful for feeling better. And other people always seem to want to emphasize the positive. But these are really big things to have lost out on in your life so far.
jane
Posted by Dinah on March 8, 2010, at 9:27:05
In reply to Feeling sad all of a sudden, posted by Deneb on March 8, 2010, at 0:30:27
Well, I agree that you don't have those things yet, and that can be something to be sad about. Keeping in mind that you're still quite young and can get as many of those things as you wish.
But I don't really think you can judge whether you're worse off than others. You don't know what it's like to be them. You can't see it from that point of view. Nor is it true that all of those who don't finish high school, for example, are in the same position and face the same prospects. I couldn't say that I'm worse off than someone who lives in a million dollar house and who has never been depressed, because who is to say what challenges that person faces?
I know that part of depression is to twist thoughts. But maybe you could think of yourself as not so badly placed for moving in whatever direction you wish to move in life? Not to say that you have it easy, or that your life is perfect.
I wouldn't be too quick to decide that exercise is your only answer. You did well enough for long periods of time when you weren't exercising hours a day six days a week. Maybe you could think about what right now has in common with those other times? And of course, sometimes feelings just are. They pass, they return, and they just have to be accepted for a while. If they linger on, it's time to talk to your pdoc.
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad, Deneb. I hope you feel better soon.
Posted by Phillipa on March 8, 2010, at 10:50:49
In reply to Re: Feeling sad all of a sudden » Deneb, posted by Dinah on March 8, 2010, at 9:27:05
Dinah you have a good therapist or is that your're insights? As they are deep and real. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on March 8, 2010, at 22:55:55
In reply to Re: Feeling sad all of a sudden » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on March 8, 2010, at 10:50:49
Thank you, Phillipa.
Perhaps after all this time it's hard to tell. He's molded me well enough. :)
But I'm also only too familiar with mood swings and have a fair amount of things I routinely say to myself. And yes, those may well be the things my therapist has said to me.
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