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Posted by Deneb on November 30, 2010, at 17:25:08
OK, making more money is good but I'm really not used to working so much!
HR got me to do a double shift on Friday, 9:30 to 2:30 then 5 to 10. I have a 5 to 10 shift the night before and a Sat. shift of 1 to 6. I'm going to be so tired! I tried to say no, but this woman wouldn't take no for an answer. She just said, OK, you're working from 9:30 to 2:30 on top of your 5 to 10 shift.
I'm already working 6 days a week.
I'm really not used to working so much. I hope it goes well. If I can do this, it would be great because I can make more money, but I would also like to have time to look for another job. I want something that pays more than minimum wage.
Sorry about complaining. I know this is nothing compared to people who work two jobs and like 50 hours a week.
I've lead a spoiled life. I haven't really had to work tons just to make ends meet.
Posted by jane d on November 30, 2010, at 18:26:45
In reply to Making money is good but..., posted by Deneb on November 30, 2010, at 17:25:08
I think you need to start practicing saying no. Or "I'm sorry but I can't" if that is easier to you. Make up a reason if you need to. A class, another job, need to help your ailing parents. Whatever. Not everybody can afford to refuse employer demands like this but thanks to your living situation you can.
Remember that it is not in your employers interest for you to ever have time to look for another job. Nor do they care if you have a breakdown from exhaustion a few months from now. It's easier for them to run you into the ground now and then replace you when you collapse. It's up to you to protect yourself from that.
Jane
PS. You may also want to refuse to work split shifts. If you think about it you are spending 12 1/2 hours of your day but only getting paid for 10 hours.
Posted by Deneb on December 1, 2010, at 16:24:02
In reply to Re: Making money is good but... » Deneb, posted by jane d on November 30, 2010, at 18:26:45
Today was the worse day ever. First I had insomnia last night, then I got monitored again and got a bad score and had to be given a verbal warning. I just broke down after that. I cried for literally 5 hours at work, there was about 2 hours where I stopped crying. I stopped crying after about 3 hours, but then the woman from HR came and told me I had no choice but to work an extra 4 hours on Sat. on top of the extra shift I was forced into working. Then I started sobbing again.
Then I got monitored again at the very end and it was just so triggering that I started crying again. I cried all the way home on the bus and I'm still crying now.
I think everyone at work thinks I'm crazy now.
How do I deal with this?
Posted by jane d on December 1, 2010, at 17:03:04
In reply to I cried for 5 hours at work, posted by Deneb on December 1, 2010, at 16:24:02
Don't worry about what everyone at work thinks. Lots of people have cried at work. I certainly have. And I suspect that most other people have really wanted to at one time or another.
Having someone look over your shoulder is very stressful. And it's awful to be told you aren't doing something well - even if it's something that you know know doesn't matter - or something that isn't one of your strongest areas - like the day shift surveys.
Are you still crying? Can you do something you really enjoy this evening? A hot bath? A long walk? Look up things to do in Chicago?
Alternatively you could try being angry at this. Yell. Call a friend and complain. Or stick pins in a picture of your supervisor. Watch a martial arts movie and fantasize.
Remember you are not your job. It is just one way to get things that you want. Nothing more.
Eat your regular dinner. Take your meds on time. Make sure you get enough sleep. All the ordinary boring things that each help a little bit.
Mind you all of this falls into the do as I say, not as I did category. I'd come home and let myself get more and more upset until I couldn't sleep, go back to work still stressed out, and repeat the cycle. I can personally vouch for that being the wrong way to handle stuff.
That's all the short term stuff. Once you've calmed down you can think about what you want to do long term.
Feel better. I'm sorry you had such a bad day.
Jane
Posted by tetrix on December 2, 2010, at 9:16:48
In reply to I cried for 5 hours at work, posted by Deneb on December 1, 2010, at 16:24:02
Think about it this way, at least you know that you don't really have to do this. You can always go back home to people who care about you and you arent forced to work to pay bills or mortgage..
Posted by Deneb on December 2, 2010, at 21:59:45
In reply to Re: I cried for 5 hours at work » Deneb, posted by jane d on December 1, 2010, at 17:03:04
I did evening shift today and I was extremely productive, but I did not get any positive reinforcement at all. Instead the supervisor got on my case about the one survey that took longer than expected to complete.
No positive reinforcement, only negative reinforcement and punishment.
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