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Posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2013, at 19:50:30
A week with my sister will cure many ills. Her home, dedicated to their playful dog, has a completely different pace and look on life.
I am glad to be home, to our chaos of construction. It's gone on at a great pace, though, and I have a better plan for creating my calm in the midst.
I'm not married to a bad man. He's been under the same strain as I have and has been handling then in his own way. I might be more "fragile" but he has his own coping skills that have been fraying the longer the job goes on.But I return deeply rested, having had long walks and playing with their dog. Some extraordinarily quiet days, which I treasured as much as the active ones. My sister truly understands.
Tomorrow I see my pdoc and we'll review how I have been getting on.
It is good to be home.
PC
Posted by alexandra_k on September 9, 2013, at 20:14:03
In reply to Back home in a more orderly state of mind., posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2013, at 19:50:30
Glad to hear that you are doing better. Sometimes... Articulating the 'worst case' (if that makes sense) helps you see that things actually aren't there. I mean... Sometimes the courage to face the thoughts. Like your thinking that actually you could see a lawyer and see about a divorce... Is an important part of the process of perhaps your deciding (and being happy with your decision) that you actually don't want that after all. It can be nice to face some of the dark, hidden stuff, sometimes. Because of that, I think. Then it loses some of the negative power over us. That hidden corner of our mind wasn't as bad as we thought it was. Not sure if this makes sense or resonates at all... Sometimes I think that can be what is hard about people 'taking sides' on lines of thought... It restrains our freedom somewhat to come to our own decision. Make up our own mind.
I am glad that it is good to be home. I remember when we had re-pilers through... It truly was awful... Things lifted considerably once they were gone. Because... It wasn't THEIR house anymore. We didn't have to worry about keeping them happy (so they would do a good job and not rip us off too much) etc...
Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2013, at 23:55:34
In reply to Re: Back home in a more orderly state of mind., posted by alexandra_k on September 9, 2013, at 20:14:03
I need to get away. Been years. Phillipa
Posted by Partlycloudy on September 10, 2013, at 17:25:26
In reply to Re: Back home in a more orderly state of mind., posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2013, at 23:55:34
I can highly recommend it, even if only for a day or two. Get away from the routine, the familiar, and see a different environment.
PC
Posted by Phillipa on September 10, 2013, at 20:54:26
In reply to Re: Back home in a more orderly state of mind. » Phillipa, posted by Partlycloudy on September 10, 2013, at 17:25:26
PC glad it worked. If only. Phillipa
Posted by Partlycloudy on September 13, 2013, at 9:45:36
In reply to Back home in a more orderly state of mind., posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2013, at 19:50:30
Hard not to slip into the previous behaviour. After all, *I'm* the one who got to take the trip. So husband is as wound up as ever. I find I am having to listen much more carefully for the content of his message, and not attach as much meaning to the tone of his words. He'll deny to the of the end of the earth that he sounds anything but kind or neutral. And back at home with the chaos of dust and disorder, I struggle to maintain my inner peace.
Oh, and let's throw in a tooth abcess that has been lingering for what, a decade? Very deep, it would flare up, then subside. Over and over. X-rays of what I complained to be a sore tooth showed nothing. My "Phoenix" abcess, so called because it rises from the ashes, only to be self extinguishing, was finally figured out, and I have a root canal scheduled.
So yeah, I am not particularly at one with the world right now. I would, however, appreciate a zipper for my lips to keep my smarmy replies to my husband behind my lips for now.
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