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Posted by sjb on March 8, 2005, at 9:21:26
In reply to Re: - Two days til another virtual chip party (nm) » sjb, posted by AuntieMel on March 7, 2005, at 13:34:44
Oh, thank you guys for replying. It really helped. Although, I am proud that I've refrained I am upset about my huge appetite. The chocolate isn't really working, I've just been ravenous for any type of food. However, I know it's much more important for me to stop drinking.
I picked up "Sober For Good" from the library and I can relate to so many of the stories. Also, since I have not yet been to AA (I'm not in denial, I just a loner type and am very uncomfortable in group settings) this book offers advice from those who have succeeded with and without AA.
Anyway, I've been a bit down. Weather sucks, my clothes don't fit, I'm getting old, I've been pushed aside in my job and now have no work (if it wasn't a state job, I'd been fired/layed off long ago). . . BUT, I'm NOT drinking, my year old lab is the most wonderful dog in the world and so is my husband, uh, that's the most wonderful man in the world, not dog.
Geez, I'm rambling. Congrats to the rest of you as well, whether you've been sober for x amount of days or still trying. Your here, on this thread, and for me, that was huge step.
I'm looking forward to my 30-day virtual chip. SuperBowl Sunday was the last time I drank, and it was a doozy. I never want to feel like that again.
Posted by AuntieMel on March 8, 2005, at 13:53:05
In reply to Re: - Two days til another virtual chip party, posted by sjb on March 8, 2005, at 9:21:26
I'm not a group person myself. Actually I *can* do ok in a group, but only if I know the people in it, and that takes a while.
You could start with taking a friend to an 'open' meeting. Or sample several places that way. You might find a fit.
If they ask you to talk you can alway say 'No thanks, I'm here to listen tonight.' They won't force you.
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 8, 2005, at 23:58:20
In reply to Re: - Two days til another virtual chip party, posted by sjb on March 8, 2005, at 9:21:26
> I picked up "Sober For Good" from the library and I can relate to so many of the stories.
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book, movie, or music without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
Posted by AuntieMel on March 9, 2005, at 8:43:08
In reply to Re: - CONGRATULATIONS! I made it 28 days (nm), posted by sjb on March 7, 2005, at 11:10:22
Thirty days. Yahoo!!!!
Posted by sjb on March 9, 2005, at 10:38:34
In reply to Re: - Virtual chip party for sjb !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by AuntieMel on March 9, 2005, at 8:43:08
Auntie Mel,
Thank you! Last night was especially tough as we had a cold spell with snow and high winds, the kind of day you just want to cuddle up and have a nip, in my case, a big nip. Didn't do it. 30 days, whew.
Posted by Lee05 on March 9, 2005, at 10:43:12
In reply to Re: - Virtual chip party for sjb !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by sjb on March 9, 2005, at 10:38:34
Posted by TamaraJ on March 9, 2005, at 11:11:17
In reply to Re: - Virtual chip party for sjb !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by sjb on March 9, 2005, at 10:38:34
You did it - 30 days! Good for you. You should be very proud of yourself. The first 30 days can be a real b*itch to get through. This member of the Psychobabble Sobriety Support System salutes you!
Kudos,
Tamara
Posted by just so sad on March 10, 2005, at 0:03:19
In reply to Re: - Virtual chip party for sjb !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by sjb on March 9, 2005, at 10:38:34
Posted by antigua on March 14, 2005, at 16:54:20
In reply to Re: - Congrats and best wishes! » sjb, posted by TamaraJ on March 9, 2005, at 11:11:17
Posted by AuntieMel on March 17, 2005, at 12:20:38
In reply to Re: double double quotes » sjb, posted by Dr. Bob on March 8, 2005, at 23:58:20
No green beer for you!
{she says as she sits at her desk listening to Irish drinking songs}
Posted by Lee05 on March 17, 2005, at 13:51:30
In reply to Re: Happy St. Pat's day Lee and sjb, posted by AuntieMel on March 17, 2005, at 12:20:38
> No green beer for you!
>
> {she says as she sits at her desk listening to Irish drinking songs}Thanks--and to you too Auntie Mel. I'm glad you posted today--I'm kind of in dangerous territory, so hearing from you was well-timed. I've found myself in that dangerously complacent place where the addiction tiger can easily convince me I can handle "just one". For me this is much harder patch to get through than those first days. And to add fuel to the fire, I broke up with my boyfriend last night, so that tiger's got a fair bit of ammo to hit me with. So far just drowning my sorrows in coffee, and working hard to keep it that way.
So thanks for the reminder to keep coming back here often, especially right now.
And yes, Happy St. Patty's to everyone out there!
Take care,
Lee
Posted by AuntieMel on March 17, 2005, at 14:47:11
In reply to Re: Happy St. Pat's day Lee and sjb » AuntieMel, posted by Lee05 on March 17, 2005, at 13:51:30
Interesting timing, indeed!
Last week both of the counselors at the family thing I go to quit. I got an email from one 'best wishes and stay sober'
I emailed her back something like 'so far this year my daughter's been arrested, my bird died and you guys have quit and I haven't slipped yet. I may have been voted "most likely to be a scout" in our group, but. by gosh, if and when I do it it will be on *my* terms, not because of outside influences'
scout: having 'just one' to see if you are really an addict.
hang in there. don't let others' actions dictate what you do. and be prepared that there will be times that you will think you're 'cured' - usually around milestones. I'm coming up on a two year birthday next month and I'm nervous as a cat right now myself.
Posted by Lee05 on March 17, 2005, at 15:14:01
In reply to Re: Happy St. Pat's day Lee and sjb » Lee05, posted by AuntieMel on March 17, 2005, at 14:47:11
Thanks Auntie Mel--when's your birthday?
Lee
Posted by AuntieMel on March 18, 2005, at 12:59:07
In reply to Re: Happy St. Pat's day Lee and sjb, posted by Lee05 on March 17, 2005, at 15:14:01
Posted by TamaraJ on March 18, 2005, at 19:57:46
In reply to Re: towards the end of april (nm) » Lee05, posted by AuntieMel on March 18, 2005, at 12:59:07
AuntieMel: Our anniversary dates are close - mine is early May (May 5 to be exact). This May I will celebrate 9 years. It seems like yesterday sometimes that I picked up my desire and 1 month chips. I am so weird that I have all of my chips, including the desire chip, in a little change purse that I carry with me at all times. I don't know, it is comforting having them with me.
Lee: I, too, sometimes still get the "I am sure I can handle one drink" thoughts, even as recently as last summer. I, personally, would have to be delusional to think that I could have a drink or two and not end up back in the same drinking pattern I had been in before I stopped. It's funny, though, that when I get those thoughts, I seem to also get hit with a vivid picture of me when I was drinking, and I realize that I so much prefer the way I feel now (living sober) to the way I felt before (using).
All the best to you Lee and to you AuntieMel.
Take good care.Tamara
Posted by Lee05 on March 22, 2005, at 17:43:11
In reply to Re: towards the end of april » AuntieMel, posted by TamaraJ on March 18, 2005, at 19:57:46
Hi All,
Really feel like drinking right now, so I thought I'd come and see if anyone was around. Actually, even if no one is there, I feel better just posting. Nothing in particular happening--it's just a really sunny spring day, and I'm having trouble shifting my focus from a glass of white wine out on the patio.
Doing my best to hang in--I'm going to go for a walk.
Later,
Lee
Posted by TamaraJ on March 22, 2005, at 17:52:01
In reply to Help, posted by Lee05 on March 22, 2005, at 17:43:11
Hi Lee,
I'm here. I know all to well that nasty desire to drink that creeps on you when you least expect it. Distracting yourself is a good idea -go for a walk, call a friend, organize a kitchen cupboard or a dresser drawer, or even pick up the phone and call the AA number of talk to someone there. You don't have to go to a meeting. Someone will be happy to talk to you over the phone and help you through the urge to drink. And, try not to worry. It will pass. You are doing great Lee! And, the fact that you reached out instead of picking up is great as well. My thoughts are with you. My babblemail shows as being off on the this board (because I had changed my posting name, and this thread, which contains my old posting name, has not yet been archived), but if you find a post by me on either Social or the main board, you will see that my babblemail is on. You know you can babblemail me at any time. Don't hesitate. Hang in there Lee. You are going to be ok.
My thoughts are with you. Take good care,
Tamara
> Hi All,
>
> Really feel like drinking right now, so I thought I'd come and see if anyone was around. Actually, even if no one is there, I feel better just posting. Nothing in particular happening--it's just a really sunny spring day, and I'm having trouble shifting my focus from a glass of white wine out on the patio.
>
> Doing my best to hang in--I'm going to go for a walk.
>
> Later,
>
> Lee
Posted by Lee05 on March 23, 2005, at 8:55:21
In reply to Re: Help - I'll do what I can » Lee05, posted by TamaraJ on March 22, 2005, at 17:52:01
Thanks you so much for being there yesterday Tamara. Things did get a little dicey, but I'm really glad to be able to say this morning that I'm still sober--78 days now. Really didn't think I was going to make it through that one-- on my way to the liquor store and everything. At the last minute I went into the grocery store instead, bought myself a more appropriate (non-alcoholic) spring patio drink and something really great for the bbq. Then on the way home I stopped and rented "28 Days" and a couple of other movies.
You were right, it did pass--I just got really panicked at the time because I felt totally out of control. I guess I didn't expect it this far into the game, but I'm just finding that now is when the psychological addiction really starts to play dirty.
Thanks again--I'm so glad you were there :)
Luv ya,
Lee
> Hi Lee,
>
> I'm here. I know all to well that nasty desire to drink that creeps on you when you least expect it. Distracting yourself is a good idea -go for a walk, call a friend, organize a kitchen cupboard or a dresser drawer, or even pick up the phone and call the AA number of talk to someone there. You don't have to go to a meeting. Someone will be happy to talk to you over the phone and help you through the urge to drink. And, try not to worry. It will pass. You are doing great Lee! And, the fact that you reached out instead of picking up is great as well. My thoughts are with you. My babblemail shows as being off on the this board (because I had changed my posting name, and this thread, which contains my old posting name, has not yet been archived), but if you find a post by me on either Social or the main board, you will see that my babblemail is on. You know you can babblemail me at any time. Don't hesitate. Hang in there Lee. You are going to be ok.
>
> My thoughts are with you. Take good care,
>
> Tamara
>
> > Hi All,
> >
> > Really feel like drinking right now, so I thought I'd come and see if anyone was around. Actually, even if no one is there, I feel better just posting. Nothing in particular happening--it's just a really sunny spring day, and I'm having trouble shifting my focus from a glass of white wine out on the patio.
> >
> > Doing my best to hang in--I'm going to go for a walk.
> >
> > Later,
> >
> > Lee
>
>
Posted by TamaraJ on March 23, 2005, at 9:08:35
In reply to Thank you, posted by Lee05 on March 23, 2005, at 8:55:21
(((Lee)))
I am so proud of you, and so pleased that you overcame the urge to drink. That is wonderful, and it just adds to the strength of your sobriety and helps to reinforce your willpower - each time you overcome the urge (IMHO anyway). Well done! I used to think of the urges as something like you would see in a a cartoon - where there is the little devil on one shoulder and the little angel on the other. Devil saying - Do it, just one won't hurt. Angel saying - No, you know that one will not be enough. It's not worth it. I am glad last night the angel won out :-) Yeah, the psychological addiction is a bugger :-( I hope you cooked up something yummy on the barbe and enjoyed a really good meal. And, 78 days - less than two weeks away from yet another milestone. Hang in there Lee, one day at a time. It gets easy - it really does.
Take good care of you.
Luv ya back,
Tamara
> Thanks you so much for being there yesterday Tamara. Things did get a little dicey, but I'm really glad to be able to say this morning that I'm still sober--78 days now. Really didn't think I was going to make it through that one-- on my way to the liquor store and everything. At the last minute I went into the grocery store instead, bought myself a more appropriate (non-alcoholic) spring patio drink and something really great for the bbq. Then on the way home I stopped and rented "28 Days" and a couple of other movies.
>
> You were right, it did pass--I just got really panicked at the time because I felt totally out of control. I guess I didn't expect it this far into the game, but I'm just finding that now is when the psychological addiction really starts to play dirty.
>
> Thanks again--I'm so glad you were there :)
>
> Luv ya,
>
> Lee
>
> > Hi Lee,
> >
> > I'm here. I know all to well that nasty desire to drink that creeps on you when you least expect it. Distracting yourself is a good idea -go for a walk, call a friend, organize a kitchen cupboard or a dresser drawer, or even pick up the phone and call the AA number of talk to someone there. You don't have to go to a meeting. Someone will be happy to talk to you over the phone and help you through the urge to drink. And, try not to worry. It will pass. You are doing great Lee! And, the fact that you reached out instead of picking up is great as well. My thoughts are with you. My babblemail shows as being off on the this board (because I had changed my posting name, and this thread, which contains my old posting name, has not yet been archived), but if you find a post by me on either Social or the main board, you will see that my babblemail is on. You know you can babblemail me at any time. Don't hesitate. Hang in there Lee. You are going to be ok.
> >
> > My thoughts are with you. Take good care,
> >
> > Tamara
> >
> > > Hi All,
> > >
> > > Really feel like drinking right now, so I thought I'd come and see if anyone was around. Actually, even if no one is there, I feel better just posting. Nothing in particular happening--it's just a really sunny spring day, and I'm having trouble shifting my focus from a glass of white wine out on the patio.
> > >
> > > Doing my best to hang in--I'm going to go for a walk.
> > >
> > > Later,
> > >
> > > Lee
> >
> >
>
>
Posted by AuntieMel on March 23, 2005, at 12:11:35
In reply to Thank you, posted by Lee05 on March 23, 2005, at 8:55:21
I missed your post yesterday. I'm so glad Tamara was here for you.
Congratulations on beating back the urge. It was a surprise, I know, but you've now experienced a surprise urge and know you can get through it.
Well done, choo choo.
Posted by Lee05 on March 23, 2005, at 12:45:02
In reply to Re: I'm sorry Lee, posted by AuntieMel on March 23, 2005, at 12:11:35
Please don't be sorry Auntie Mel. You guys are such an awesome support network, and I appreciate you all so much.
Planning anything special for your birthday?
Lee
> I missed your post yesterday. I'm so glad Tamara was here for you.
>
> Congratulations on beating back the urge. It was a surprise, I know, but you've now experienced a surprise urge and know you can get through it.
>
> Well done, choo choo.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 1, 2005, at 15:54:36
In reply to Re: I'm sorry Lee » AuntieMel, posted by Lee05 on March 23, 2005, at 12:45:02
Monday, right?
One more weekend to a virtual chip.
Congratulations
Posted by Lee05 on April 2, 2005, at 18:53:08
In reply to Lee's coming up on 90!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by AuntieMel on April 1, 2005, at 15:54:36
> Monday, right?
>
> One more weekend to a virtual chip.
>
> CongratulationsYup, this is 90 on Monday--thanks Auntie Mel! Actually, this particular virtual chip has been the hardest earned yet. More struggles over the last 30 days than in the 60 before. But still hanging in, due in no small part to the incredible support I get from all of you.
Thanks so much everyone--have a great day!
Lee
Posted by TamaraJ on April 4, 2005, at 9:25:34
In reply to Re: Lee's coming up on 90!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! » AuntieMel, posted by Lee05 on April 2, 2005, at 18:53:08
Lee,
Kudos, congrats, bravo, felicitations, yahoo, . . . !!!!! You were put to the test, but you did it. 90 days, in spite of the trials and tribulations you went through during the past 30 days. Well done Lee!
Take good care of you (and your sobriety).
All the best,
Tamara
Posted by Lee05 on April 4, 2005, at 19:43:45
In reply to 90 days for Lee - Woo Hoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by TamaraJ on April 4, 2005, at 9:25:34
> Lee,
>
> Kudos, congrats, bravo, felicitations, yahoo, . . . !!!!! You were put to the test, but you did it. 90 days, in spite of the trials and tribulations you went through during the past 30 days. Well done Lee!
>
> Take good care of you (and your sobriety).
>
> All the best,
>
> Tamara
Thanks Tamara--feeling pretty good tonight!Take good care of you too,
Lee
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