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Posted by Kath on January 3, 2008, at 17:44:15
I'd known he was partying over the holidays, particularly New Year's Eve, when he did several ecstasy pills. But for him (at this point) a 'slip' means cocaine.
So he says last nite he slipped with cocaine. He's feeling really ashamed & somewhat scared.
I pointed out to him that I understand how he can feel shame. Asked him if he can feel really proud that he stayed clean from July 11th until last night - that that's almost HALF a YEAR & if he did it once he can do it again.
He has an appointment with his mental health worker tomorrow & has accepted my offer to sleep at our house to be less at risk.
He said he used alone, in his room.
I am SO scared. I saw him around 2 pm & I think I was numb until about 5 pm, when I got in touch with SCARED - make that terrified! I am so scared that he'll FALL again & that since he didn't follow through with his agreed-upon rehab last June, we'll have to follow a hard line this time.
I've been helping him with his money since June, but there's nothing stopping him from going to the bank & getting a new bank card for the joint account we set up.
He didn't have any shifts at his part-time kitchen job in a sports bar over the holidays. He has a shift tomorrow at 5 & Saturday. I said to him that hopefully being back at work will help him shift gears.
You know, it's such a total shame....he's such a nice person. It's awful when you see nice people doing really destructive things to numb their emotional pain.
:-( Kath
Posted by zenhussy on January 3, 2008, at 18:02:31
In reply to Son had a 'slip' last night. I'm scared; so's he, posted by Kath on January 3, 2008, at 17:44:15
Posted by Kath on January 3, 2008, at 18:22:55
In reply to stay strong honey! remember u come 1st then son (nm) » Kath, posted by zenhussy on January 3, 2008, at 18:02:31
Thanks Zennie,
I'm sick to boot, so not feeling great.
I tried to do a reality check with myself.
In June, it was a matter of him living with us & when he didn't go to rehab, having to find a place to live & talking about camping in a tent under a culvert!!!
Now, he does have a house to live in. Realistically speaking, probably the worst that would happen right now is that he'd get into debt by having someone 'spot' him drugs & him ending up using them. Then I'd have to do what for me would be VERY hard & that is sit back & let whatever happens happen!!!
BUT - I'm going to try to not go forward. Just try to stay in the present & to rest & do liquids, Vitamin C etc & get rid of this silly virus.
Thanks for your support Z. I truly appreciate it.
luv, Kath
Posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2008, at 9:45:44
In reply to Son had a 'slip' last night. I'm scared; so's he, posted by Kath on January 3, 2008, at 17:44:15
You're such a sweetheart for giving him a safe place to stay. And it's great that he's meeting with his case worker so quickly after the slip, while it's still fresh in his mind.
This is something that he has to come to grips with. Please protect yourselves financially, if you can. Staying clean when it seems like the rest of the world is having a massive party is really, really challenging, and your son showed his human qualities in succumbing to the temptations that were around him. For the longest time it was all I could do to just keep myself isolated from the things that were bad for me.
And definitely, use your own support system at this time, Kath. Didn't you go on a retreat last summer? Have any contacts from that time you can call and speak with? You need the help as much as your son does.
Take care!
ClearSkies
Posted by Kath on January 4, 2008, at 10:27:44
In reply to Re: Son had a 'slip' last night. I'm scared; so's » Kath, posted by ClearSkies on January 4, 2008, at 9:45:44
Thx CS.
Things are more complicated. Posted on Social Board. Seems he's been hearing the self-harm-or-we'll-harm-your-family voices again. Details of last nite at Social.
I called a friend & a help line this morning.
Seems my son is more concerned about the psychosis; about that the voices are back.
I think that's the first thing that mneeds to be dealt with.
thx for your support, luv, Kath
Posted by zenhussy on January 4, 2008, at 13:03:07
In reply to Turns out he's having psychosis again........ » ClearSkies, posted by Kath on January 4, 2008, at 10:27:44
Posted by Kath on January 5, 2008, at 20:56:27
In reply to (((Kath))) high praise for how u r dealing w/ it! (nm) » Kath, posted by zenhussy on January 4, 2008, at 13:03:07
Thanks Zennie,
He's staying at our house right now & that feels reassuring. He's mostly sleeping, which his mental health worker says is the best thing when one is having psychosis.
Thanks for your 'high praise'!! I don't know if I've ever had anyone say that to me!!! I got all excited, like a little kid!!! lol
thx Z & for the hugs too, they're always welcome.
luv, Kath
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