Posted by JohnB on June 25, 1999, at 22:52:27
In reply to Re:Site should be named "Medicine Babble", posted by JohnL on June 25, 1999, at 20:31:40
JC
After reading this entire exchange, I'm left with one question for JC: why did you take the time and make the effort to start this thread with your observations? Specifically, what were your motives behind posting this message in the first place? You were obviously not soliciting advice from anyone here as virtually all messages here do. You simply dropped several vaguely "corrective" (this is obvious since you wouldn't haved posted all if you had approved of what you were seeing) remarks after posing a question whose answer is so obvious to anyone suffering any medical condition that one is left pondering not the substance of your words but the intent behind sharing them. You hint around saying anything particular to the PEOPLE reading your statements, leaving everything you say so unfocused and open-ended, doing so for an audience you know little about, that you end up confusing your own communication, keeping the PEOPLE your speaking to guessing, and inviting all kinds of (rightly) emotional responses to YOU and not what you wrote. People aren't thrilled about being "judged" or "corrected" by anyone, but there's so modicum of respect relayed when the "judgements" are honestly direct and constructively focused, not vague and insinuating.
Just be more concrete and direct, JC, and people will pay attention to and respect your comments, not react to YOU. They won't mistake a blunt assessment with an unfeeling attack.
JohnB
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