Posted by Cass on August 17, 1999, at 17:32:00
In reply to Re: Doesn't sound crazy at all to me..., posted by Anonymous on August 17, 1999, at 13:14:47
I think that a soley sexual relationship is the simplest relationship you can have. When I am depressed, the work of an emotional relationship is too daunting and success seems unrealistic. Why try? If I go into a sexual relationship knowing it is just that and no more, at least I have something--an uncomplicated form of intimacy and bonding--I can handle that. I think. At least that's the way I feel about it at the time. Sometimes I view this as a cop-out or a vice. But other times I see a sexual relationship as the only realistic human connection accessible to me in my diminished state. I don't have the capacity for anything more, so I might as well not even try for something meaningful. A little pleasure is better than none. (Obviously, this is depressive thinking.) Inevitably, I end up wanting more depth, and there lies the frustration. I don't feel I deserve a more meaningful relationship because I am not equal to the task. There: that's my "babbling" addition.
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