Posted by Ruth on September 17, 1999, at 20:43:30
In reply to Re: The Counselor From Hell, posted by Yardena on September 17, 1999, at 19:42:54
I just wanted to say how badly I felt for you when I read your post. As others have said, it is a sad commentary that your counsellor didn't take you seriously and intervene in what must have been a terrible situation. I'm sure it took great strength to go to him and how alone you must have felt when he didn't respond. The sad part is that my guess is that if you confront him now he's likely to have little or no memory of what happened. I would be concerned about your reaction should that be the case.
Sometimes the hardest thing for me is when I just want to scream over something that has happened to me and I realize that there is no one to scream at.
The good thing as I read your post is that you're clear that something horrible was done to you and that you were the victim and not to blame for what happened. I believe that is the first step in coming to terms with something that's happened.
Do continue to use us for support.
> Think it through before you confront him. Discuss with someone all the possible scenarios you can imagine and how it would feel to you, what impact it might have on you, positive or negative, and how you would cope. Are you ready to deal with something that might end up feeling like a repetition of your original encounters with him? This is just as much of a possibility as having a cathartic and empowering experience in confronting him.
poster:Ruth
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