Posted by yardena on August 20, 1999, at 16:56:41
In reply to Re: Life on Meds...Approaching 40, posted by Roo on August 20, 1999, at 10:15:49
Never heard of "Sark", but I agree. I thing part of how I developed my life with depression is that nobody cradled my "dark, sad places" when I was a child. I learned to conceal them and feel that they were fault in my character, that any discomfort I felt was of my own doing and made me worthy of blame.
If I do go on to be a parent, I know that one thing I hope to give my child is (at least most of the time) the patience to accept those dark, sad feelings, and to provide comfort in place of blame. The blame I received came from parents who had no other skills for dealing with the dark, sad, and angry feelings of their children. I may not be able to stop the genetic cycle, but I can alter the psychological/emotional one.
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